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How do you REALLY feel about ceremony? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 week ago by Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Just something I was thinking about today, and I'm curious if I'm an outlier, or if I'm on the same page as everybody else.

It's a big time of the year for graduations and weddings and it got me thinking about all the ceremonies. They are often long and drawn out and VERY expensive for whoever's paying the bill, and I can't stand them.

Just the idea of sitting for hours while somebody I don't know talks and talks and talks until we finally get to the "I do" or the passing of the diplomas/awards that we came to see.

Don't get me wrong, I'm all for the celebration. I'm more than happy to come out and congratulate you on your achievement and make some good memories with friends and family, but why can't we just skip to that part instead of sitting through a series of lectures?

I even skipped my own college graduation because I didn't see any point in making me and my family sit through the ceremony. They know I graduated, and I don't need some big expensive to-do and a spotlight to validate that.

But, we keep doing them, and keep making them bigger and more elaborate than before, so it makes me wonder if people actually appreciate these ceremonies or if it's just something we do because that's how it's been done.

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[–] ShawiniganHandshake@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 week ago

If it makes you happy, go for it. If it doesn't, skip it.

When I graduated from College, my family appreciated the pomp and circumstance. I won an academic award and my parents were very proud, so I was happy to go along with things. It was an hour or so and it wasn't any kind of burden. Sometimes it's important to do things for other people.

When I got married, my wife and I were already well established, so it was a break-even affair and people appreciated the party. We come from different traditions, so we picked the parts we liked and discarded the rest. Nobody left unhappy.