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But honestly, its kinda complicated. Like I want to give an anecdotal evidence. Just a few days ago, we were talking, and there was another friend of mine talking to a girl, and he was obviously trying on her. Then we talked for sometime, and he asked her, what do you do for living.
She said she's in grade 8.
And honestly all of us were perplexed cause we thought she was an adult. Now what I felt was the right thing to do would have been terminate convo, or just have a casual conversation and never mention it again. Instead, the second the girl stepped away, both of them started discussing how she's bluffing and stuff, and they were so loud and unsubtle about it, she was standing 10 feet away and could hear it.
I saw 3 options in front of me of what could have happened
Neither of the 3 cases invite a conversation in my opinion. And come on have some manners, she's standing 10 feet away from you, that's such an awkward spot to put someone under if it was one of the first two things. I even told him this, he shrugged it away, saying she was just playing games.
And honestly it's kinda become a pattern. I've become more opinionated on several topics, those are the convos I just cannot have with most people around me.
I have few friends already because I am a socially awkward guy, and I have no Idea what to do when I'm faced with situations like these.
Well, my comment was to encourage you to maintain friendships you want to maintain. If you don't want to maintain the ones you currently have, for whatever reason, you are in the right to not do it.
I don't have suggestions on how to make new friends unfortunately. I've often seen suggested to join new hobbies or volunteer for that. Maybe try that ๐