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[–] Shanoa@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

About 13 years ago when I was 13 (6 years before my egg was forcibly destroyed), I made a Mii after a Castlevania character on my 3DS and a bit later at that time I was grinding Smash Bros 3DS a ton online.

Iirc, for some reason your username online shows as whatever your Mii's name is, and being known as Shanoa just felt so right to me. So after a lot of hesitation, I decided to name my online handles that and even entered my first in-person Smash tournaments that year under the same name. πŸ’€ I have been competing in platform fighters ever since.

Being known by most of my friends as Shanoa made it really stick with me like it was my real name and whenever I thought about living as a girl, that was the name I always wanted to go by. So after I learned I was trans, I ended up going through with it.

I'm still very early in my social transition, but it's pretty cool to think despite that most people I know irl have been calling me exclusively by my real name for the majority of my life now lol

[–] Blue2a2@sh.itjust.works 2 points 11 hours ago

I used a random name generator and kept some of the ones I liked on a list! I wanted something that sounded like a name, but wasn't something you hear a lot, so I chanhed a letter and I loved it!

Then I googled it for a final check and realized it was a character in pokemon, and loved it more!

[–] enbiousenvy@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 13 hours ago

name of design language & name of school of thought

My first name (Sophie) was picked by strenuously looking through the top 1,000 girl names in the US, and writing down anything that felt "right". I ended up with a short list (including Amber, Luna, Aurora, Bri, and a few others I can't remember), and I looked up the meaning and histories of each. Sophie is the French form of the Greek Sophia, which means knowledge and wisdom. Given that I'm highly autistic and have a whole damn encyclopedia of facts in my head, I felt it fit the best (and it's super cute). I was going to go with Sophia and just have Sophie as a nickname, but I liked Sophie so much that I just had to have it as my legal name. I also picked my middle and last names, though. My middle name (which I won't say as to not doxx myself) is related to my favorite wildflower, in a language of the country I wish I could immigrate to. I spent a very long time on it. My last name is a common US last name that is also from the region of that country, and I picked it mostly so I didn't have an immediately searchable name (harder to doxx/stalk me). The reason I picked a new last name was because...well, let's just say I had a horrible childhood, and want nothing to do with my family. I didn't want my name to feel like it was "owned" by them. Which is also why I didn't ask them what they would have named me if they knew I was a girl, as others here have done.

[–] Rose_Thorne@lemmy.zip 62 points 2 days ago (2 children)

It was supposed to be my birth name, actually. The entire time my mom was pregnant, I absolutely refused to take my hands off my genitals for ultrasounds or I just kept turning, so they had no fucking clue what I was gonna be. They assumed a girl based off what the doc told them, and my dead name was kinda a last minute fill-in.

They never hid this fact, happily told me about other name choices when I asked, but Rose was always at least my dad's favorite and my mom's top "acceptable" choice. When my egg finally cracked, I tried other names but Rose just... Felt like a birthright. Like for 30+ long years there was the real me just begging for the mask to say my name. Nothing else felt like me.

[–] 0ops@piefed.zip 12 points 2 days ago

That's really cool actually

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[–] thadah@piefed.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 day ago

I saw it online in the profile of a human rights activist and liked the sound of it. I even used it as an alt username and character names years before coming out, so when the time came to choose a new name for myself, I knew it was the only name I could accept, and I loved it from the moment I started using it :)

[–] kamillz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 37 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Got drunk with friends and wrote down all the names that might work, and tried then one by one. Good thing the first one stuck, cause the next one was womannator 3000

[–] Furbag@lemmy.world 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That's a cool story, Womannator 2000.

Excuse me. Womannator 1999

[–] catfeeder@piefed.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I was thinking about Satan back then and noticed that Lucifer can be shortened to Lucy and thought that this name is actually really nice.

TLDR the reason is satanism

[–] samus12345@sh.itjust.works 1 points 8 hours ago

Both names are derived from lux, the Latin word for light, so the connection's not a coincidence!

I struggled for months or even years with this. Then I named a pen and paper character after June from avatar and got so used to be called June when playing, that I started to like it.

[–] TabbsTheBat@pawb.social 41 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I made a spreadsheet, of a bunch of random nouns I thought had name potential, and then asked my partner and friends their opinions and documented the results

[–] MissesAutumnRains@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 2 days ago (1 children)

This is so funny and fitting. I actually love this method.

[–] TabbsTheBat@pawb.social 19 points 2 days ago

The scientific approach :3

[–] eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Stole it from my second grade teacher.

What's their name now

[–] emmy67@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

Took the equivalent popular name from the year of my birth. As in second most popular boy name to second most popular girl name.

It felt correct immediately, but YMMV

[–] Alvaro@lemmy.blahaj.zone 32 points 2 days ago (4 children)

Born with a unisex name, so my parents 🀷

I had a friend who said that she would name her kids Sam and Chris so that they could be whatever they wanted.

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[–] chattre@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago

I used to have to come up with a lot of names when I played DnD a while back. I'm usually good at taking in my surroundings or my existing knowledge and mash it up into something interesting.

ok so the chmod command from Linux, plus Siemens (yes, the tech/rail company) and a random suffix with vowels: Chiemyu

not my best thinking, but gets the point across and would be good for some silly character πŸ˜…

[–] meow@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Thought about it for years, my girlfriend asks the lemmy gremlins... They recommended my Name, i loved it. (no i dont usw meow as my name...)

[–] urheber@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 14 hours ago (1 children)
[–] meow@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 11 hours ago

One day while smoking with a friend someone placed a rock in my hand and It struck me like a vision.

I’d tried out a few names at that point and none of them felt like me, then the name I chose just popped into my head and i just kinda knew immediately in that moment. Told my friends later that day and 7 years later it feels weird to think my name was ever anything else.

I still use my name my mom gave me at birth. Its a masc name and I'm transfem. Egg cracked like 4 years ago and I haven't had any names I feel like trying. I do sometimes use alternative feminine spellings that don't change the pronunciation (which I first used in a pokemon game like a decade before egg cracking).

My name happens to be gender neutral. I kept it. Now I am invincibly undeadnameable. Like a Lich who doesn't need a soul cage.

[–] Pipster@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

So when I told my mum about me I wanted it to be a little of an ice-breaker for her to brainstorm a new one with me. I had some 'soft' requirements - appropriate for my age, something I could shorten and greek-ish (deadname and my sister's names both are, not like we have any familial link or anything). I'm the eldest of 2 and for years we have known her name had she been a boy but for some reason we both thought my other name was what she got called. Turns out it wasnt true and my mum said "oh no you were going to be called x". And when I heard it I realised it fulfilled all my requirements, kinda suited me and it just felt nice, like it was mine to reclaim.

(Btw, username unrelated lol)

[–] bioluminescence@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Both my sisters' names end with -ina. So I changed my name to something that also ends with -ina for consistency.

[–] guy@piefed.social 1 points 8 hours ago

Tina? Lisa? Mina? Supercalifragilisticexpialidociousina?

[–] Kayday@lemmy.world 9 points 2 days ago

My wife and I are one and done, very happy. We both really liked our potential daughter's name and decided I should use it :)

[–] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 13 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

it was a joke and it stuck (it is the same as a muppet, but i am kind of a muppet so it worked)

[–] Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world 15 points 2 days ago (1 children)

What a cute story, Miss Piggy!

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[–] ratsnake@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Just picked a normal-ish name off a list that shares its initial with my deadname (well, more like zombiename at this point), so my work email can't change and i can just go by "F. Lastname" instead of "Firstname Lastname" when i want to keep my gender ambiguous.

ETA: you can also just try out a name with friends or on socials for a bit before committing to it, and you can always change it later.

[–] hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 2 days ago

Read about history, and then steal the name of the most badass woman you find.

[–] kerrigan778@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

My mom had told me from a young age, long before either of us knew, what I would've been named if I'd been a girl. She'd had names picked out for boys and girls but didn't have a born girl. I call it my "chosen given name"

[–] snowsuit2654@piefed.blahaj.zone 15 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Following this thread with interest, because I'm currently fumbling and changing it often. Can't find something I like.

I know my parents picked a female name for me (they didn't check ultrasounds before birth) but unfortunately I don't know what it was. I am really curious to know. Unfortunately I'm not able to ask them. I wonder if I can dig up some old records...

edit: I found it written in my baby book. Pretty emotional experience tbh. I'll try it out.

[–] lena@gregtech.eu 11 points 2 days ago

Stole it from Lena Raine :3

[–] silvana@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Jolyne, its Similar to my deadname and a JoJo reference

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Mine was picked from a character in a show who gave me so much (at the time unidentified) gender envy as a kid. I used the name in a game for a while to see if I liked people referring to me by that name and fell in love with it.

And then I picked a middle name that was more out there, but that I also liked, so if I ever wanted to change things up, I could use either.

[–] flora_explora@beehaw.org 3 points 1 day ago

I chose Flora because I love plants :)

[–] Pirky@piefed.world 11 points 2 days ago

I tried a few different names; most of them were derived from my original name. I ultimately decided on one that was pretty similar to my dead name.
I also realized a few months after picking my new name that it's an anagram for my mom's name. Except it has a D...

[–] Frozzie@lemmy.world 8 points 2 days ago

It's the name of the wife of a twitch streamer I follow. It's also the name of a notorious feminist who fought for women suffrages in the 50s in my region. And it's also the name of the most beautiful woman in greek mythology πŸ₯°

[–] AlexCory21@lemmy.world 12 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

So basically, I was given my name haha. With permission from me of course. But at the time when I was just becoming aware that I'm trans I met some friends on VRChat. We would regularly hangout and stuff and the topic of names came up. I told them my now dead name and instantly my friend suggested the name "Allie". So I just rolled with it and it stuck and I liked my new name. Which is strangely fitting since my avatar is part cat, like an Alley Cat haha.

So yeah! Now I go by Allie now! But I'm probably gonna just use that as a preferred nickname and when I do my name change I'll probably write down "Allison". "Allie" for short. I'm also considering changing my middle name to "Nicole". But we'll see.

I haven't done my legal name change yet.

Statistics. My assigned name was the 3rd most popular for my agab when I was born, so I tried on the 3rd most popular name for my actual gender, and I was like, yup, that's the one. Perfect fit.

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