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Let's put a positive spin on this, since people in the comments are dogging on him enough.
Guy's 20, living on his own, clearly inexperienced in the ways of living on his own, and he had the courage to do what so many fail to: ask for help. If he keeps that going, he'll be fine.
He clearly didn't get the guidance he needed when he was younger, but he is trying and asking questions. He is on the right path.
People like to blame men for the failure/neglect of society, parents, teachers, etc., to teach them the things they'll need to know as an adult. Generally regarding stuff that was conventionally ascribed as "women's duties": cooking, cleaning, decorating, etc.
People blame the individuals as if they're supporting the patriarchy by not knowing the things that they were never taught. That's missing the point, because these men were harmed by the patriarchy which neglected to teach them these important things.
It's really hard to enter your twenties and become moderately independent and suddenly have to learn a hundred different things that are absolutely critical to a well-ordered life, that already come so naturally to people who have been doing it their entire lives that they hardly even think about it and look down on you for not just intuitively grasping everything you need to know.
But no, they see a young guy struggling with basic tasks like washing the bed sheets or hanging curtains or choosing a tasteful rug or not burning dinner or whatever, and they jump straight to "NOBODY IS GOING TO MOMMY YOU, GROW TF UP!!!!!" Because it's sooo cool to attack a man who you find in a position of weakness because he's struggling with tasks you deem basic.
If we could just break that stigma and make it okay for men to ask for help, they'd be able to learn what they need to a lot easier. At least the ones who try. Clearly the ones who don't try and have no interest in trying are the problem, so why focus the ire on the ones who do try? Asking for help kinda skylines yourself and makes you vulnerable to attack, so I'm not surprised few people do it.
That would at least ease the transition for a generation or two until people who learn basic things as boys grow up and become men who don't need to catch up on the things that the average 20yo woman has already been doing for over a decade...
Also of note, some of that can just be pure crippling ADHD too,
washing the bed sheets
Thanks for reminding me.
hanging curtains
Bought 'em 2y ago and they're still in the box in a seldom used closet, keep forgetting about them until I see them but then I'm doing something and will have to get to it later, by "later" I've forgotten again. I'll get to them later...
choosing a tasteful rug
This one might not be ADHD I just hate shopping for things, I get in and get out.
not burning dinner
OH SHIT MY PIZZA!
He also didn't get the guidance here. Who says "I'm tweeting this".
You help him, and then you tweet it privately...
Yeah that and honestly, its also mainly a failure of the parents to teach him.
Also for the cousin, I hate when you ask someone, specifically a family member for help, and they make you feel stupid, I mean sure, I maybe late to the party, but I am learning.
Maybe they have a good enough relationship where they can gently tease each other like this, and both of them are laughing.
some abusive parents even go out of their way to NOT teach things like this on purpose in order to keep their children dependent on them
omg it's truu
That was 6 yrs ago. Wonder how lil bro is doing 😂
To shreds you say...
I assume he’s doing great.
My mans was cooking his own food; realized (own his own) that his way of cooking was suboptimal; and then asked for help.
That approach is to life is going take him far.
Probs fucked up a bunch of other things, being scared to ask again!
Doesn't seem scared to ask, just to ask his mom, which could be valid, lol
If someone can't find humor in their errors, life is going to be a lot harder for them. It's not just about people learning and practicing being nice. You and I, the error making people, need to also do our part. K love you. Good bye.
I was excited to take home ec, but little did I realize it was basically for people who had never been in a kitchen before. If you were a kid who had parents/grandparents who cooked and let you help out, you were miles ahead of the game.
We made brownies. From a box. Taco salad. Forget what else but it was all box food type stuff. If you're a kid in the US who doesn't have a home cooking tradition Home Ec isn't going to teach you shit.
to be fair, learning how to make even boxed meals is still better than nothing if you're from a home life situation where you've received zero food prep knowledge
Not to be too picky, but boxed food usually aint the best for you. Now a class called "Shit you can do with rice" would be a killer way to go.
I helped out in the kitchen a lot, but the home ec classes I took were things that I wasn't (yet) doing at home.
My mom made scrambled eggs, but the way they taught me to do it in home ec resulted in much better eggs. They taught me how to make tacos, my mom didn't know about tacos at all.
I think the issue is that my mom really learned very little from her own mother because her own mother wasn't much of a cook. My mom cooked every day. She had cook books. She had a few recipes handed down from relatives. But, she didn't know what she didn't know, which was a lot. Almost everything was overcooked and dry. She didn't know how to taste what she was cooking and adjust things. She didn't understand the purpose of the ingredients in the recipes she made, so she'd substitute things that completely ruined it.
I think my home ec classes were much better than the ones you had. But, also, my mom wasn't very good at cooking. So, home ec was really useful for me.
Such an odd juxtaposition between recognizing the oven needed to be cleaned and not thinking of a way to prevent the mess lol.
Hope the young chef is still in the kitchen and better than ever.
Maybe the oven didn't have a baking sheet so he didn't think of it. Like for BBQ you cook directly on the grill
I once shared an apartment with a guy who just moved out of home and had literally zero life skills. One day he almost burnt down the kitchen by heating about 500ml of oil in a frypan till it was smoking and then proceeded to drop in a kilo of fully frozen chicken pieces.
At least he recognized that he should clean the blood and grease every time. I’ve seen plenty of ovens that suggest that their owner would not be as diligent.
My sister once had a roommate who asked her what goes into a grilled cheese sandwich. She said just two pieces of bread and a slice of cheese. A few minutes later she found the roommate in the kitchen staring at a plain cheese sandwich on a plate. "Something wrong?" she asked. Roommate replied (I shit you not), "How is this supposed to melt the cheese?"
Uni halls with international students who have zero real world skills, and are used to the staff/maid cooking for them. They started 3 fires and ruined so much food before giving up on using the kitchen altogether.
I was mocked for not knowing how to cook macaroni and cheese in my class.
Blame a kid who has never had it before why don’t you.
I use cook my ramen noodles in the bowl I would eat them out of
Looking back that's incredibly stupid but my thought at the time was, "I got to put the noodles in something, how about a bowl?"
So I'd put the noodles in a bowl (glass or porcelin or whatever they're made out of these days), pour water in, put it on the stove
Lucky the bowl never exploded on me
Why a pot wasn't the first thing that came to my mind I'll never know... Weirdly, I don't know when I realized I was being stupid. Just one day I was like, "I should put my noodles in a pot"
I use cook my ramen noodles in the bowl I would eat them out of
Seems pretty normal, just pour the kettle into the bowl…
stove
Oh, oh no…
And ppl wonder why the younger gens are terrified of doing anything fun or risky.
To be fair to him, if you've never specifically cooked meat in an oven I can see how you'd think "grill -> like barbecue -> place directly on grill".
They need to bring back home ec (economics).
Basic cooking, nutrition and finance. How taxes work, voting, credit, bills and even dealing with cops (be respectful, no sudden movements, know your rights, shut the fuck up).
How to adult for kids who don't get taught at home.
I think we've all been there when it comes to doing something or other at home in a way which turns out to be obvious stupid when pointed out, especially at the beginning.
I had to do a double take at 'blood'. I thought, my god, what manner of cooking is he doing? Does he pick doves out of the air and cook them without bleeding them?
No. He just thinks what comes out when you cook meat is blood. He would think that though.. given the rest of the conversation.
My sister once decided to make chocolate mousse by melting several bars of chocolate in the microwave and then putting all the molten chocolate in the fridge. Thus creating one gigantic piece of bowl-shaped chocolate block. Apparently recipes have more than one ingredient, who knew?
Oh dear.
Now I know why every recipe includes steps like, “remove from packaging”.
You guys got home ec? 😞
I baked most things on a baking sheet or just a sheet of aluminum foil.
Except pizza. Pizza I just put right on the rack because that's the only way to get the crust crispy. But even this horrified my wife.
If youre talking about frozen pizzas, many of them to tell you to put it right in the rack.