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[–] cRazi_man 174 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (21 children)

Literally what everyone should be doing now for the environment. Clothes waste is a huge problem. The fact that people throw away stuff that can still be sold at thrift stores is appalling. Understandable if your body shape has changed or something, but "getting bored" of clothes is indefensible. This extends to people "getting bored" of phones and cars too, which is terrible.

Also: I'm in this picture and my wife hates me for it. I have something from 25 years ago thats still wearable.

OP's post has also missed the category of "sleep clothes".

[–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 35 points 4 days ago (2 children)

If your body shape has changed, donate your old clothes! My wife lost a bunch of weight because medical reasons, and she recently went through her entire wardrobe; I dropped five 30-gallon bags of perfectly serviceable clothes off at a nonprofit thrift shop.

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[–] Darkassassin07@lemmy.ca 19 points 4 days ago (1 children)

30y/o.

I have bought a grand total of 3 brand new pieces of clothing in my whole life(not including underwear/socks). Every single other piece was either given to me for xmas/birthday/random gifts or bought from thrift stores. Anything I can't wear anymore has either been donated back to thrift or cut into rags myself.

I've also directly worked in a thirft store, where anything unsellable get tossed into 'rag out' where it's donated to a company that turns it into cheap bags of shop rags: so even stuff that's falling apart is still worth donating.

[–] cRazi_man 15 points 4 days ago (1 children)

In England they tell us not to donate anything that we wouldn't consider worthy of gifting to someone. They have to use volunteer time to soft/sort (and I guess clean) all items. If it's not something anyone will buy then best to take it directly to clothes recycling drop offs rather than charity shops.

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[–] Banana@sh.itjust.works 17 points 4 days ago (3 children)

My friends and I have been doing clothing swaps with the local femme community and honestly its been a huge game changer for closet refreshing! We had like 260 people come through last time and anything left after the swap is done is donated to local youth/addiction/women's centres :)

I've gotten some of my favourite outfits from the swap!! And it's completely free!

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[–] Zacryon@feddit.org 22 points 3 days ago (1 children)

This is true. I wear my socks until they are more hole than sock and I currently have a couple of shirts in the "home clothes" level that I got about 15-18 years ago.

Fuck fast fashion. Be a man. Save the planet.

[–] eneff@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 3 days ago

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[–] justastranger@sh.itjust.works 10 points 3 days ago

Donated men's clothing tends to be dead man's clothes

[–] zod000@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 3 days ago

This is so spot on I feel like the person that made this meme has been sneaking around my house to spy on me.

[–] Rachelhazideas@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

For the same price, men's clothing are often far thicker with better quality fabric.

Next time you see a simple men's t-shirt, look at the equivalent for women. It's more expensive and thinner.

People always say 'vote with your wallet' as if women didn't already have to deal with the ridiculousness of non-standard sizes, bloating, bra compatibility, and constantly being heavily judged for appearances. Taking all of this into account, better fabric and pockets are a premium that can't always be afforded or not even offered.

[–] skisnow@lemmy.ca 3 points 2 days ago

What does my head in is the way so many casual clothes like t-shirts are pointlessly gendered. There's way more variance between one individual person and the next, versus the difference between men and womens' bodies as an overall group. There's plenty of top-heavy guys just as there's plenty of justice-chested ladies, so why not just market casual clothes based on what shape they are rather than what gender you should conform to in order to wear it, and let the customer decide whether a given design is too girly or manly for them.

Sports shoes are the worst offenders, because stylistically these days 98% of them look absolutely identical but are split by gender anyway for no fucking reason.

[–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 14 points 3 days ago (1 children)

So men are better for the environment?

[–] Sylvartas@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 3 days ago (3 children)

On that front, yes. But then there's our usual fascination with engines/computers/power tools (you have to pick at least one) so it probably evens out

[–] warpspasm@lemmy.world 8 points 3 days ago (1 children)

And don't forget about all the methane.

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[–] minorkeys@sh.itjust.works 5 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

"Probably" is doing a lot of work here.

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[–] Shellofbiomatter@lemmus.org 68 points 4 days ago (21 children)

There's no point to discard something that is still useful.

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[–] DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world 9 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

I'm currently wearing my painting clothes, working on painting the front hallway. The shorts are around 25 years old, and the shirt is about ten years old. The shorts only have a couple of small paint spots on them, and I admit that I wear them for everyday too. In preparation for painting, I used an old t-shirt as a rag.

Apart from underwear and socks, nearly all of my clothes are at least ten years old. My winter parka is about 35 years old and still looks fine, the color is just a bit faded. I have a belt that's over 40 years old, I got it in high school. It's my favorite belt.

I'm old, no one really cares what I wear as long as I'm decent.

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[–] blazeknave@lemmy.world 28 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I really don't know the last time I got rid of an article of clothing besides shredded socks. I like this post.

[–] kalpol@lemmy.ca 19 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Socks make excellent dipstick wipers, then once well impregnated with oil, they're good for lubing bike chains

[–] humorlessrepost@lemmy.world 15 points 4 days ago (1 children)

And once they’re 51% oil, they’re self-lubricating cum socks.

[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 8 points 3 days ago

And when they are so full of dried cum that you can't bend them any more, they make excellent roof shingles

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[–] darthelmet@lemmy.world 12 points 3 days ago (7 children)

I’m still wearing clothes with holes in them. It’s not fair, if someone buys brand new ripped jeans that’s “fashion,” but if I do it I’m a “slob.”

[–] Malyca@lemmy.zip 6 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (5 children)

My husband won't stop wearing band tees with holes in them. He's a tech executive. I keep telling him showing up on zoom like that isn't doing him any favors. Man doesn't care. Can't help but respect his convictions.

[–] Sylvartas@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 3 days ago

I keep telling him showing up on zoom like that isn't doing him any favors

As a programmer, I'd trust a tech exec with a scruffy beard and/or wearing dilapidated band shirts over some guy with nice clothes and an impeccable shave any day of the week. You're right that it probably doesn't help him with other execs or finance guys though

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[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago

holes are only fashionable if you paids 100s or 1000s for them. not if you created them yourself

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[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 7 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

I sew my clothes back together when they start to fall apart. Until they are so threadbare that there's not enough structure to hold a hole together. Then they become rags.

[–] vk6flab@lemmy.radio 9 points 3 days ago (1 children)

And the problem with this is?

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[–] FellowEnt@sh.itjust.works 5 points 3 days ago

Protip, a pin badge works to cover those holes around the tshirt/shirt pockets. You can also learn to live with the holes below the belly button, especially if there's some crumpling going on down there. This further blurs the line between home and outside clothes and elongates your public enjoyment of holey clothes. For shorts, cotch holes adds some nice airflow, and once all socks are more hole than sock, you just switch to sandals.

[–] Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 20 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Shit, TIL I'm a man.

Ah well, now to pick which hole-ridden shirt will be my pajamas tonight.

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[–] TachyonTele_Esq@piefed.social 27 points 4 days ago (2 children)

I just went to the thrift store last month for clothes. And this is absolutely correct. The entire store was huge, and then there's two racks for men lol.

Something interesting I noticed is most of the men's clothes are nice shirts. Button downs, dress shirts, polos, all sorts of different fabrics, there was even a wedding shirt in there. Not a lot of tshirts, unless they're made of something different.

My theory is the men's clothes that ends up in thrift stores are the nice clothes given to them as gifts, or the wife found it and added it to her bag of clothes to donate.

[–] Saapas@piefed.zip 20 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Or stuff someone had to buy for some occasion

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[–] blockheadjt@sh.itjust.works 21 points 4 days ago (8 children)

There's another aspect of this. Y'all are assuming cycling out your wardrobe regularly is "normal" and men are "abnormal" because they don't. But the reason women cycle out their wardrobe regularly is not because of some universal law that men ignore, it's because women go through weight fluctuations that render their old clothes unwearable. You'll hear a woman talk about losing 30 pounds and having to buy new clothes because of that... the fact that women's fashion includes a lot of form-fitting items (whereas men's fashion is often looser or more forgiving) certainly contributes to this as well.

I have some items I've had for over 20 years I could still wear, because I haven't had any significant changes in figure in that time... because I'm a guy.

[–] paultimate14@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago (3 children)

I think the more prominent difference is fashion, and the cultural approach to clothing.

Women are expected to "keep up" with the latest trend, and are influenced to dress like the celebrities and influencers they see. When my wife and I go back and look at pictures of ourselvelves, my wife can guess the year by the waistline of the jeans she's wearing. Meanwhile I'm always there in the same jeans, with the same styles of t-shirts, buttoned-shirts, flannels, or thermal shirts depending on the formality and temperature of the occasion.

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Yes, as a woman that does not like shopping, I still have to buy clothes more often than my boyfriend. Even with a relatively stable weight (+/- 3 kilos over the years) clothes stretch out and loose form, which makes the fit bad. The shirts that survive are the shirts with a more boyish loose cut, the form-fitting stuff looks bad after a while.

That said, I do put them in the home/nightwear category until significant holes appear or they don't feel comfy anymore.

[–] MutilationWave@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

I'm a man. I went from 220 pounds on the vodka diet to quitting booze for a while. I lost 50 pounds.

The dope Japanese jeans I bought forever ago fit!

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[–] BlindPenguin@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago (5 children)

Sure, i do wear my clothes for a long time. But i'm still bored by the selection, and i wish skirts & thigh highs were more accepted in society.

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[–] SethTaylor@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago

I feel seen

I should probably go put on nicer clothes

Or you could stop looking. Either way's fine

[–] MeowerMisfit817@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago

Or, Dog's New Sheets.

Yes, my das grabs his old shirts and uses them to cover the dog at its bed.

[–] Maggie@thelemmy.club 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

We all need to adopt this attitude to clothes

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[–] lemmyng@piefed.ca 15 points 4 days ago (1 children)

The good men's clothes you find at thrift stores are there because the owner passed away and their next of kin donated them.

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[–] sudoMakeUser@sh.itjust.works 15 points 4 days ago

Yeah I do this. I never buy clothes myself. Usually kinda just acquire stuff over time. It goes good -> everyday -> work -> rags

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