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This is gonna sound weird, but I need to get it off my chest. I’m straight (yeah, I know how that sounds given what I’m about to say), but for a while now, my best friend and roommate—who's bi—and I have been making content together on OnlyFans.

It started as a money thing. We were both broke, saw an opportunity, and just went for it. To our surprise, it actually took off. Subs came in, the money was good, and we got used to doing it. We’ve known each other forever, there's trust, and although it was awkward at first, over time it started to feel more like just a job.

But somewhere along the way, things changed—he fell in love with me.

A few months ago, I started dating a girl. She was amazing. Funny, smart, we clicked instantly. Things got serious. Eventually, I felt like I had to tell her about the OnlyFans stuff. Big mistake. She freaked. Felt betrayed, even though I swore it wasn’t emotional, just physical and business. She dumped me.

After that, things between me and my friend got... off. He never straight-up said it, but it became obvious he had feelings. The way he touched me during shoots changed, the way he looked at me outside of them. He started getting jealous if I was talking to someone else. I’ve tried to act normal, but I’d be lying if I said it didn’t affect me too. Not because I feel the same way, but because I can feel how much it hurts him.

And now I don’t know what to do. Continuing feels wrong. I feel like I’m leading him on, like I’m using him. But if I stop, I’ll hurt him too. Not just financially—he needs the money—but emotionally. This has become a way for him to stay close to me, even if it’s eating him up inside.

I still want to be his best friend. I care about him a lot. But I don’t know if I’m already hurting him just by staying in this. Or if I’ll hurt him more by leaving.

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[–] janNatan@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 day ago

If you're looking for different advice... Marry him. Straight people have been entering marriages of convenience for centuries. Financial stability, someone to keep you warm at night, someone to talk to - you can have it all. Physical attraction is overrated - at least you don't find him repulsive.

Or you could just stop tryna promote your onlyfans.

[–] 0x01@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 day ago

Not sure what different advice you're looking for here, you've asked a couple times about the same situation and the advice has been fine.

Are you looking for some miracle that will solve this problem? There isn't one.

You need to talk to your friend. You have sex with him frankly he is more than your friend. Despite you claiming no romantic feelings you have intimate relations and that fundamentally changes a friendship into something different.

You can't become best friends like you used to again, relationships don't work like that, time is a one way street and going back is not allowed. You can move forward with a new and different relationship.

Right now you are choosing money over friendship, that may be acceptable or unacceptable morally to you but it is reality.