It would be even more interesting if humans were a mono-gendered (or effectively genderless...since everyone is the same) species.
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Imagine coming to Lemmy and being told you picked the wrong gender distro.
With only 1% trans, I think if we're just willing to ACCEPT when they tell us we got it wrong, apologize and leave it at that, that would be enough.
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Assuming there's no major difference between men and women excluding their gender roles, I don't get why would anyone want to reinforce the same system that oppresses them. Maybe it would be more effective to teach people that their gender has nothing to do with the person they are instead of pushing transgenderism to little children who can't even conceptualize the concept of gender yet
"But you are transphobic heartless bastard monster etc etc etc" idgaf man a friend of mine died because of this. You're playing with people's life. If they really don't like the gender they're assigned at birth they can do that later in life when their brain is developed enough to make conscious choices. Transgender people are like 1% of the population and 99% of the population is cisgender, it makes no sense at all to do that considering it's an incredibly small minority of people. If percentages were like 40% or people, that would have been understandable but psychological burden and straight up confusion is too large and the good intentions don't justify the psychological burden
Can you please elaborate on how someone died “because of this” in the context of the rest of your message? I am genuinely curious, because 100% of stories I’ve heard of loss of life involving the concept of transgenderism has been teenagers/young adults committing suicide as a result of having their entire support system taken away overnight because they express themselves differently than their assigned gender at birth.
I would also challenge the concept of anyone “pushing” transgenderism on children, because I have seen exactly 0 evidence for this, but I also understand that “pushing” is a subjective term, not a scientific one.
I think it's fine to look at general biological markers and categorize people for healthcare reasons. Most of the time being in the ballpark works for most people. Maybe in the future we can have some full body scan thing that picks up the optimal healthcare setup for each individual but in the meanwhile, we'll go with what we got.
But that doesn't have to have shit to do with their internal experience of themselves, or how the social environment should react to them. And I reiterate: "most people". Meaning there's going to be outliers and that's okay, and they'll need more individualized care. Being abnormal is normal.
This would only make sense if humans were some neutral sexless gender until they decided, which would have to be biologically enforced until the brain was sufficiently developed enough to choose.
There's an episode of TNG where Data builds his child. He specifically says that he designed their base form to be sexless and speciesless, so that they could choose it for themselves.
If only the Trek fandom at large would acknowledge how unfathomably based that episode is. I swear there's still a massive contingent of right wing boomers driving the narrative.
Yea that's what I meant: If in a hypothetical alt-world, Humans were evolved so that biological sex is neutral for everyone.
But since "Gender" and "Sex" both translates to "性別" in Chinese, so when I first learned those English words, my brain kinda just mixed up both terms and encoded into my lexicon to mean the same thing.
In a lot of western early education they are used intechangably; which is where a lot of the local discourse stems from too. I think its because kids are taught that "sex" is naughty so they switch the terms for "ease" of lesson only to further confuse people. The american public school system atually does this with a lot of subjects.
I think it would be more interesting if you could change at will. Wake up and pick your gender like you pick your outfit for the day.
Ranma 1/2? 😅
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That's pretty much how it already works. It's just that the pressure to make the "correct" choice is fucking crazy.
For some of us we didn’t know there was a choice
For all of us we didn't know there was a choice, we were all infants at the time the choice was made. We were still figuring out which amorphous blob gives us the milk.
This is why others decide on sex for us through observation. That much is sensible enough, infants are not great at that kind of thing. But we're discovering more and more that this is an imperfect system and that more often than we realized the answer is not straight forward or in fact that our conclusions are sometimes incorrect even when it appears straight forward.
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It's just that the pressure to make the "correct" choice is fucking crazy.
I feel pressured to only ever present as a cisgendered heterosexual person regardless of whether that's correct or not. The pressure is for LGBTQ+ people to simply disappear from public society. Correct has nothing to do with it.
To say that transgenderism is a choice is to argue that it’s not a result of anomalous brain development, and is instead an ordinary delusion, no different than believing you’re Jesus Christ. Which implies than gender-affirming care is harmful.
I suspect that’s not what you meant.
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As long as i dont have to care and can keep focusing on myself
The "and" in the title is key. Humans can currently choose their gender expression, so that part can be stripped out with no changes to the world. Not assigning gender at birth is an interesting thought. Some people are really, from my view, weird about making sure their children perform gender correctly as early and often as possible.
Also I think it'd be neat if it was "genre" in English too. People understand there's more genres than horror and fantasy.
Do you really think people just behave in certain, sex-related ways, because they've been told they're this sex or the other? That sex-related behavioural differences don't appear naturally (and are perhaps reinforced) but are just learned? Also, you definitely can "choose who you want to be", lol, God made us all free-willed entities! But I cannot be a camel, nor can I be a non-material entity, or (ethnically) Nepali. We have degrees of freedom but we are fundamentally constrained by reality. If you deny reality (a very post modern, perspectivist approach that's been very popular in the West for some decades now), then sure, you're no longer constrained but then you lose the capacity to make any "objective" assertions about the world (because you denied an external reality).
It's not really that it's a choice to not be cis, but yeah, we shouldn't assume people's gender at all imho until they tell us themselves (and as children can't tell us until they're older don't assume until they're older), and even when they do it shouldn't need to affect stereotypes or the way we grammatically refer to them or anything, just maybe what body they want to have and who can be attracted to them
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