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Yes, please and thank you!

Don't get me wrong, Graphene would still be my choice for privacy & security. But what started out as a quest for privacy has somehow morphed to include FLOSS idealism, even AOSP derivatives feel "too google" now and I feel bad carrying a Pixel.

Eh, users can still learn a little, and fiddle with their personal stuff. My little "corebooted Chromebook running Q4OS Linux looking like Windows XP, with background from Apple and the start menu labeled as Finder" brings me joy every time I use it. It was and is pure fun.

And the great thing about enthusiastic devs is that they tend to be happy to spread the joy of their own personal projects and help, unless they get overwhelmed by help requests.

It's a neverending process. 😄 I've been at this for some 3-4 years now, and was ready to delete WhatsApp only about 6 months ago, and it's already left me out of some local groups. Worth it though, and one group moved with me. And just now in the process of hopefully moving from Graphene to PostmarketOS (functional on an OP6) or Ubuntu Touch (to be installed on a FP4), just a matter of deciding which one. In retrospect, I could have skipped this Graphene phase and just gone from Divest to Linux, but I wasn't ready then.

IMHO if you try to do things before it feels like "okay this works, next I want to try...", you're likely to just get overwhelmed and take a step back.

1. "Easy and painless" depends on your point of view, and we here tend to be biased. For example, just a couple of months ago I had to explain to "a normal person" how to make backup copies of a folder to a pen drive. She did not want additional backup software (and I still don't know if W10 would have had the functionality out-of-the-box). Copypasting files was too difficult. In the end she decided to go with "save as", which sounded like a horrible idea to me, since she'couldn't remember how to open anything in Word that wasn't in the recently used list when starting the software, and she is going to lose track of which file is which at some point. I doubt it would be "easy and painless" for people like her, who are very common outside our little bubble.

2. Making someone change their opinion is not a sprint, but a marathon. State your opinion openly when relevant, don't get into an argument, let it brew, mention it again when it comes up, live as you "preach". That person I mentioned? Happily using Signal with me. Eager(!) to try Linux once W10 support runs out. I've told her I'll install Mint DE on my laptop and loan it to her for unhurried testing and learning this summer while having her familiar backup to lean on if it gets difficult, and to install the same on her own computer when the support runs out, if she still wants me to.

Sleep apnea diagnosis and CPAP.

I've tried postmarketOS with Phosh briefly, and while it's not in my use yet (I have an irrational fear of WebDAV but need my NextCloud), it looks rather "non-blinged" but functional.

Just clarifying that neither F-Droid nor Aurora have anything to do wirh piracy.

F-Droid is for open source software and while yes, some of the apps are replacements for that wouldn't fly in the app store (NewPipe, Spotube), they are not pirated or piracy tools.

Aurora is just a front-end for Play store that mainly allows you to download free apps without a Google account.

Dean was the one that wasn't Dean in Gilmore Girls, right? What was that Dean's name in this again?

I'm going to be boring and just say "Survivor".

Not just because she is one, because obviously she is, but because around the time of her ordeal(?), 7-9-ish hours ago, Parg's "Survivor" was making it through Eurovision's 2nd semifinal.

As a woman who's been that down: IMHO you can just empathize, but admit you don't have the capacity to deal with her needs. That you wish her well, but for your own mental health, you can't be her rock. She may well know she has trust and relationship issues, and is telling you for the very reason that she wants you to walk away now if you can't cope, rather than break her heart later.

Of course it's also possible she's has a personality disorder, rather than "just" depression, anxiety and trauma. So don't let yourself be guilted back.

In any case, for both your sakes, and I hope this does not need saying: No sex.

Edit: Based on your responses you're barely acquaintances. No action necessary, just let it drop.

A little or a lot more every year. Though humanity is pretty resourceful and nature has tardigrades, "never say never" to some post-apocalyptic 10k populations of one or the other surviving somewhere.