Allero

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[–] Allero@lemmy.today 12 points 19 hours ago (4 children)

Joke's on you, I can see my tits AND my dick!

[–] Allero@lemmy.today 1 points 1 day ago

I totally agree with you that gender wars are artificial and meant to distract people from the core issues. Divide and conquer kinda thing.

But that sits exactly at the core of my initial argument. Blaming wide groups of people, among other things, provides completely unnecessary wars out of thin air.

This doesn't deny the fact that people of each gender may face issues that are gender-specific to some degree. Men are more likely to be socially isolated, women are more likely to become victims of sexual abuse, etc. etc. This doesn't mean we should measure who has it worse, but it has to be taken into consideration if we want to correct the course and make everyone actually equal. In this case, we need to address specific sources of male loneliness, as there are some factors unique to men that lead to this.

People acting on gender issues together, not as two divided groups, is a great exercise in civil power and unity, which is helpful for any revolutionary activity.

[–] Allero@lemmy.today 16 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Yup, metrics kill it all

[–] Allero@lemmy.today 75 points 1 day ago (5 children)

Ideally? Yes

But a modern scientific environment puts a lot of pressure to present your results better than they really are.

It damages good science a great deal

[–] Allero@lemmy.today 1 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Absolutely! Everyone gets lonelier as we are getting divided; it's just that it's even harder on men specifically, as there are additional factors at play. But it doesn't mean women don't experience similar things.

[–] Allero@lemmy.today 3 points 1 day ago

That's how you know she should be your wife :)

But really, this should be more normalized. I've heard the opinion that many men see compliments as a way to show sympathy when that wasn't intended, but I think this is exactly because it's so rare.

My girlfriend also takes time to compliment me, and I appreciate it.

[–] Allero@lemmy.today 12 points 2 days ago (6 children)

Valid perspective; but I think it's quite clearly implied given the scale of the issue. The male loneliness is real, and shouldn't be written off as shit misogynists say, even if it was popularized by them. This kind of discarding might hurt men who have nothing to do with misogynistic talking points, opinions, or actions.

[–] Allero@lemmy.today 18 points 2 days ago (10 children)

Ah, the classic generalization of men and women as singular groups where everyone acts as one.

There are certain shitty men who objectify women and play alphas. There is the general category of men who get shitted at because of it, whether they belong to the former or not.

Sure, being afraid of the shitty folks is a valid reason to be cautious around everyone, as you can't easily tell one from the other. But saying that all men just made this stuff up while being total asses wouldn't be fair or helpful.

To be clear: there is a male loneliness epidemic driven by ever increasing caution about men overall. Men are often unfairly denied attention they need because they are seen as potential dangers by women and might be ridiculed for speaking out about their feelings by men (which, in turn, do it to protect themselves from the same treatment in an unhealthy patriarchal culture).

This is not healthy; moreover, being in that state of loneliness and frustration is prone to radicalizing people, making sayings about dangerous men a self-fulfilling prophecy in one case, and just causing a lot of misery in the other.

If you're a woman, I'd suggest giving a bit of attention to the men around you. There is a million of untold stories there, and making someone open up to you for the first time is a great and rewarding experience. Or just...be there, and that will be appreciated.

[–] Allero@lemmy.today 2 points 2 days ago

Without cable, you're bound to have quite some downtime. If you want it to be more reliable, maybe locating closer to cell towers/doubling with satellite might help.

[–] Allero@lemmy.today 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Waiting for Endless Space 3 so bad

Space 4X are very stagnant as well

 

OSM site and data stopped loading in Northwest Russia on all networks I connected to.

Wonder whether it's something on OSM's end or if Roscomnadzor is not minding collateral damage as always.

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