Avalokitesha

joined 2 years ago

Wait you wouldn't take your cat? After a week of you rarely being available you consider not being home at all for two days and a night?

I would strongly recommend against that. I'm worried that this may cause behavioral issues with the cat getting bored, depressed, feeling caged...

Possible consequences could be urinating outside the litterbox, willfully scratching your furniture/walls and more.

I'm not sure if with your work and travel habits a pet would be a good choice. Maybe one that doesn't need social interaction?

[–] Avalokitesha@programming.dev -3 points 3 days ago

I would advise against. A house is not a good place for a cat to be alone, and 40h per week is a lot. We have an old cat (17) and my roommate is at home all day and our cat still is super needy for attention.

There may be more aloof cats, but from my experience with cats they are most likely the exception and your cat would likely be understimulated.

Also, most cats do not handle traveling well. It is possible to train them but that works best when they are young and young cats should never be alone in a house for 40h/ week. My mom has taken in cats from an animal rescue organization where the owner was out for long hours too and she got depressed and overate so badly she had lifelong issues, even when she was with my mom and lost weight again. She also was incredibly anxious about my mom leaving her and would get stressed out if she had to be alone.

Despite what you may hear, cats are social animals and need interaction. If you are away from home 40h/week (and that's not counting going to work), it's better to get a bonded pair so they can play and interact. In rare cases you may find an old grumpy cat that will be fine - but you will probably never have a close bond with that kind of cat, and often they are used to going outside.

If you do, good on you! Most men don't.

The thing is, if men don't change, it will annoy you. But for women it may very well kill them. You're seeing the problem and understanding it, yet you blame women for trying to survive.

They don't say "All men are predators" because they want to be petty and pay men back for how they talk about women. They live by this because anything else puts them in harms way. I'm pretty sure most women would love to not have to live by that saying. Most women would love to be safe enough to abandon this. But they aren't.

And here you are, yelling at them for trying to survive and keep themselves and each other save, because it bothers you that you get associated with bad men.

I don't know, I feel like survival might be more important than someone feeling judged wrongly (even if the judgement truly is wrong).

[–] Avalokitesha@programming.dev 0 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

If men want women to stop having to say "All men are predators", they need to remove the survival need behind that line.

All these lines have a reason behind it, and as long as "All women are removed" gets shrugged off as locker room talk, or excused as he had a bad relationship experience, this aggressive mindset often leads to women trying to leave a relationship they're unhappy in getting harmed or killed.

If men want women to not see them all as predators they need to keep their bros in check. As well as end the toxic macho culture that regard women as owing men sex when men are nice to them or as their possession once they're in a relationship.

If a country elects someone who says "Grab them by the pussy" and there are men - "good" men - that meme this, that's not ok. Yet it happened and it's no wonder women feel threatened underneath a government like this.

It's not in the women's power to stop this. Good men need to finally start fighting the bad apples if they don't want to be mistrusted as a survival strategy.

Most men I talked to are more upset about being lumped in with the bad apples, when in reality you should be upset how your mothers, sisters, girlfriends, daughters are constantly living in fear and can't move through any space in life without preemptive measures.

[–] Avalokitesha@programming.dev -1 points 4 days ago (4 children)

The same does not hold true around men.

The longer a woman lives, the more men she comes in contact with, and the statistical likelihood of meeting a dangerous man goes up.

You say "all men are predators" is discriminatory, but for a lot of women it is the only way to drive the point home to their daughters, who may hear "you have to be careful around strangers" and then let their guard down when a predator plays the long game.

Also, children are often sexually abused by family members or friends. So careful around strangers is not sufficient.

Does it suck to hear "All men are predators" if you're a good one? Sure. But at the same time, people have no issues claiming all brown guys are terrorists or illegals. Or women are gold diggers. Or removed.

Humans always generalize. It's just (white) men having been on top of the food chain in the modern society for so long that they feel things are being taken away from them when other groups demand true fairness and equal treatment.

The cat violently displaced the Panda.

[–] Avalokitesha@programming.dev 3 points 3 weeks ago

I mean that's a black hat hacking forum. That alone would make me question what they were doing with their domains x)

[–] Avalokitesha@programming.dev 0 points 1 month ago (1 children)

What you don't get is you can't take away the version history of a given program and expect it to just work without constantly explaining things. There's a reason there's not windows 9 - because too many people wrote compatibility checks checking if the version started with "Windows 9" to distinguish 95 and 98 from the NT line back in the day and having an actual Windows 9 could have broken things.

Granted, Windows 2 is much older and it would be unlikely, but why do you insist of risking something at all when there are better ways?

You could have just said, oh, if there already was a version 2, let's just call it "Windows Gen2" instead of getting belligerent.