DudeImMacGyver
I'd be furious for multiple reasons though I am monogamous, but it kinda sounds like you're OK with having an open relationship based on what you're describing. That or you're in shock or maybe depressed?
Even if you're cool with having an open relationship, it does sound like your communication as a couple needs some work.
Yup, I'm pretty skeptical but sometimes I do only after investigating them to make sure it's not another bullshit scam like Autism Speaks or Susan G Komen that say they're rAiSiNg aWaReNeSs but really they're just a vehicle to make their executives richer and either don't help (Komen) or even manage to actively make things worse (Autism Speaks).
Forums themselves are the answer IMO, there's plenty of posts in tech specific places where people who are not paid journalists are posting their takes and even full on stories. They are often paid professionals in that they work a tech job, but they aren't necessarily journalists, they're just regular posters.
YOU DON'T SAY!