JD_Vyvanse

(this is a very much work-throughable issue for me i like to do a little exaggerated half-joking as a treat it helps me vent)

it's actually normal (and maybe even friggin cool as fuck????) for ur reptile brain to scream at u to bail on a relationship at the first sign of conflict, disagreement, or less than perfectly mess-free vulnerability. no i will not research attachment theory no i do not know what avoidance is, i am not a nerd & have therefore never researched anything in my LiFE & wisely avoid learning new woreds like the plAGUE!!

happy to hear! i know easier said than done (speaking from firsthand exp) but comparison really does no one any good, romantic relationships & intimacy are about personal joy & happiness for the individuals involved which is going to look very different person to person, including dating timeline.

but i get it tho, when i'm single i can't help getting a little jealous of my friends who have more success on the apps or are sluttier than me (even though i don't even usually dig casual sex! but idk there's a certain fomo there and definitely some dumb internalized Male Bullshit). and even if you've already been in a relationship, it can be hard to imagine/believe in the next serious bond in that way until that person happens into your life! so that's super normal even across experience levels.

that's possible but as someone who jumps to worst possible scenarios/conclusions because of Bad Brain, i say from experience that strikes me as jumping to a worst possible conclusion. like i gush about my friends and comrades to people in my life including partners, it's just cuz i like/love the ppl im gushing abt. but again i don't know your work friends overall vibe, or the overall vibe of her relaysh.

also echoing wht other post said that she cld be signalling she's unavailable but still values u as a work friend/friend in general, common way for people (especially women to men) to convey that.

me & nu-boo are reading a toni morrison novel together and huh this woman was pretty goated at writing fiction wasn't she?

our personal dramas & troubles, so big in our hearts...but our hearts so small in the world

& teh world so small.....in the universe

idk if i'm missing context but she probably just values you as a person and has a healthy enough relaysh with her partner that she can communicate that. are you afraid he'd get jealous or something?

oh fuck yeah, dude

this is just like in wizard of earthsea when Ged releases his shadow b/c of his damn HUBRIS!!

an upvote to each of you, good gentleposters! here's to a most spirited debate in the marketplace of ideas!!

EDIT: sorry yall i was just tryna be a rascal but these comments were friend-losing-worthy & i am truly a wretch, i retract the sentiment but leave both posts up for purposes of self crit

an upvote to each of you, good gentleposters! here's to a most spirited debate in the marketplace of ideas!!

EDIT: sorry yall i was just tryna be a rascal but these comments were friend-losing-worthy & i am truly a wretch, i retract the sentiment but leave both posts up for purposes of self crit

honestly i'd just quit posting but then what would i do with my work downtime...

honestly i'd just quit drinking but then what would i do with muy home downtime.....

the alienated fuckass's dilemma