LillyPip

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[–] LillyPip@lemmy.ca 1 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago) (1 children)

That’s because most of us just call it what it is: empathy.

But they’re trying to make that a pejorative too now.

[–] LillyPip@lemmy.ca 6 points 23 hours ago

Yeah, but the actual answer is how white are you?

[–] LillyPip@lemmy.ca 8 points 23 hours ago

He has the best hair.

[–] LillyPip@lemmy.ca 15 points 1 day ago

Why do you keep throwing away the mice I bring you? I work really hard for those, and we both know they’d overrun the place if I ignored them.

You’re being a bit rude.

[–] LillyPip@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

The thing is, though, that whilst false reports do happen – and I’m in no way trying to downplay the tragedy and horrific consequences for victims of that, such as in the case of this thread’s OP – that’s far rarer than the much more common case of women being ignored, put off, and scoffed at when they try to report actual sex crimes.

I was groomed as a child and nobody would listen to me. Then I was kidnapped and raped for months – when I finally escaped and found the police, I was sent to a juvenile detention centre for being delinquent. Finally, after much therapy as an adult, I again tried to report my crime, and the first officer basically said I was wasting their time, and implied it was my fault.(e: I do have an open case now with a sergeant who takes me seriously, but that took some climbing of the hierarchy to find.)

This is extremely common, and part of why many, many women don’t even bother to report these crimes.

The ‘believe women’ thing is because of this, and reacting to such stories with ‘well actually I knew a woman who made up charges’, whilst true and horrible, feeds those who want to believe women are likely to make this shit up when it’s so common that 1 in 6 women will experience assault, and many are afraid to report it. That can be generalised, because it’s shockingly common.

e: people make up and falsely report all sorts of crimes – burglary is a big one. Lots of people make up burglaries when they’re in dire straits and realise they can get more for insurance than selling their things. Or arson. But when someone reports a burglary or arson, you don’t see others jumping in to say ‘well actually, my ex said I burgled her for insurance purposes.’ That absolutely happens, but it’s uncommon and irrelevant to burglary victims’ crimes. We all can see that has nothing at all to do with real burglaries. That’s a whole different crime.

Sorry, /rant, but this is personal to me.

e2: I was on a fast track for uni at a very young age, and this derailed my entire life. It wasn’t a brief but terrible thing; it ruined my whole future before I was 15. So I’m sorry for having a bit less empathy about this. Instead, my trajectory was bowling alley janitor to ‘accountant’, to short-order cook, to telemarketer, to delivery driver, to cook, to restaurant manager, to erotic dancer (no sex), to residential property manager, to cashier (retail), to assistant manager, to manager, to designer (I’d been learning design and development in my free time in the mid 90s), to teacher (of programming to state workers), to programmer, to dba, to project manager – then back to designer so I could really learn and do it. That was my last job.

[–] LillyPip@lemmy.ca 10 points 3 days ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

I feel like you’re overthinking this. There are people who buy crystal-infused drinking cups to reset their personal feng shui. (Spoiler: it’s just glitter.)

I really wish I didn’t have morals. It’s so easy to make money if you’re willing to fleece people.

e: autocorrect

[–] LillyPip@lemmy.ca 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

That just makes it worse.

[–] LillyPip@lemmy.ca 8 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Going out of your way to defend trump, diddy, and epstein is not a good look, btw.

[–] LillyPip@lemmy.ca 3 points 3 days ago (4 children)

It’s like Diddy, is every other rapper a sexual predator like him then?

You must be a troll, because a serious person wouldn’t say this.

You know that real people are behind these names, right?

Do you realise that real people are reading your comments or are you just having fun here? I’ll answer if you’re serious, but I don’t believe you are.

[–] LillyPip@lemmy.ca 106 points 3 days ago (16 children)

Of all the dystopian things, this is probably the most dystopian thing I’ve read lately.

This is horrible.

[–] LillyPip@lemmy.ca 28 points 3 days ago (8 children)

Neat. Good luck protecting yourself from this.

On the other hand, I’m seriously considering opening an Etsy shop selling foil-lined clothes. I’m pretty good at sewing. What do you think?

[–] LillyPip@lemmy.ca 17 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (6 children)

One time? Sure.

But there are so many photos and videos of these same people at parties, many with underaged girls, and certain people are at nearly all of them.

Why would anyone defend them after all we’ve seen? They certainly wouldn’t defend you.

*autocorrect

 

It’s really good at making us feel like it’s intelligent, but that’s no more real than a good VR headset convincing us to walk into a physical wall.

It’s a meta version of VR.

(Meta meta, if you will.)

 

This may or may not be associated with music stands or equipment. I can’t remember.

I just emptied and re-did my music/video room, and found this bracket in a small box with no labels or anything. I can’t remember what it’s for. I think it’s either audio or video related, but it doesn’t seem to match any of my mic or equipment stands, though it might be. It’s devoid of any branding or part/serial numbers. No markings of any kind.

It folds like this:

More pics:

There’s a sliding mount screw on the bottom:

Thanks!

(Sorry for poor lighting, MacBook Pro 15” for scale)

 

Captain archer was linked with his own future, and he was almost religiously against transporter tech straight out of the gate, to a degree that seems weird if he didn’t have a reason to be.   

I understand the narrative reasons for this, but looking at him as a person, he seems overly Luddite with respect to this specific tech, in a way he isn’t with most others we can see.  He’s actually pretty progressive with respect to his society in many facets.  

That’s a bit weird, unless we consider his life includes time travel as a core concept, so he knew Scotty would lose Porthos, and though he couldn’t do anything about that, he had an almost innate distrust of transporters.  

Does that make sense?  

(I mostly mean the events of ENT and some TNG, VOY, all new movies since 2009, etc in that timeline, but perhaps the other, too)

 

We all know WD-40 works for making things move when they’re seized, but it also works better than anything for getting rid of all traces of adhesive left behind after peeling off stubborn stickers from things you buy.

It works on nearly all surfaces* – even coated paper! (just be sure not to leave it to soak into the paper.)

Instead of peeling slowly for ages with your fingernail or doing that peel-stick-peel-stick thing for half an hour, soak a paper towel in WD-40 and dab it on the offending sticker remains, wait a few minutes, then wipe off. (*if on coated paper, don’t let it soak, just gently rub it.) Clean the item afterwards to remove the oil left behind.

*it’s best to test a small area first if the object is painted or porous, and be careful with items meant to be food safe, because WD-40 is obviously not food safe.

This is something I wish more people knew, because soooo many manufacturers and retailers put stickers in the worst places and with near-permanent adhesive. I hope this helps you!

 

Excerpts:

The Facebook message that popped into her account started as a flirtation: "Hey, how are you?" 

She had newly arrived from Bangladesh to study for her master's in information technology on a student visa in 2022 and wasn't interested in a relationship. 

She liked the message. Then he texted again a few days later, "Hey, I have tickets to a Broadway show."  

She had never been to a Broadway show before, so she went — and their whirlwind first date quickly turned to love for her and then marriage. […]

Her new husband filed for a green card for his wife. A temporary one was granted, and she moved to his family's house in Brooklyn.

The future seemed bright. […]

Now, just a little more than a year later, the 31-year-old woman, who asked CBS News not to use her name due to safety fears, has separated from her husband after alleging abuse — and is now worried about being deported.

[…]

Crystal Justice, chief external affairs officer at the National Domestic Violence Hotline, told CBS News in a statement that they have seen abusive partners "threatening to deport a partner or their family or withholding legal documents to limit a person's ability to travel."

Full story on CBS News

 

This post in /r/AskHistorians apparently caused a mod conflict and confused sub users.

A couple of highlights:

Hello everyone wondering where the answer is […] We are not asking anyone to completely re-write something to suit our tastes, but to contextualize what is written within the reality of the times. As this question hit /r/all, it’s very clear that there is a large audience reading it, with various degrees of knowledge about the period and the novel/film.

They did, though, and people called them out, to be met by some confusion, followed by another mod response:

In sum, you had the poor timing of posting right at the point when the mod team ‘turns over’ several times - US slips off to Bed and then Europe wakes up. It meant that you were dealing with, essentially, a string of mods in different time zones and different “shifts” which created something of a Moderator game of telephone about what we had been expecting out of an answer in the thread.

General confusion ensued.

There were several conflicting mod DMs that weren’t captured publicly, too, but were responded to in the OP. Asked to include all races, then asked to narrow it down, asked to include a disclaimer (I did, at the bottom), then asked to move it to the top, asked to remove things, then to include those same things. It was maddening.

E: re-reading, I don’t think I’ve ever used race words so often in my life, jesus.

e: I only included this photo because I couldn’t seem to submit this post without a photo for some reason. It’s only tangentially related to the Reddit post, but this is an example of my education on the subject.

Compare my first link to this: https://www.reveddit.com/v/AskHistorians/comments/69670k/did_southern_girls_around_the_civil_war_really/

Thank you for that link, @NotAnotherLemmyUser!

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submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by LillyPip@lemmy.ca to c/voyagerapp@lemmy.world
 

Took me a while and an AskLemmy post to figure this out, since I initially thought Lemmy was auto-modding commenters (which kinda made me panic), but this is what I see:

I am the only mod in this community, and others aren’t seeing this flag everywhere, so commenters aren’t actually modded.

Is this a bug with Voyager or with my instance?

 

Is this a Lemmy thing? Something with lemmy.ca? Something about Voyager?

I tried looking it up but found nothing that might explain this. I have a community that’s super niche and I don’t post there much, but I do on occasion. I don’t care that it’s not that active – it’s enough for me.

Over the past couple of days, I’ve had a tiny amount of interaction, and everyone who posts seems to be automatically flagged as a mod. What’s happening?

e: this is what I see:

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Valueing (europe.pub)
 

I’ve officially looked at the word ‘valuing’ enough times in trying to spell it that it doesn’t look like a word anymore.

Just look at it Valuing Valueing? Valuing VALUING

This word has broken my brain today, how are you?

 

It looks like they’re actually tier 1 (they seem to be standing on a white platform), but what, if any, weight is each layer above them? I can see narrow platforms, but are they all taking most of the weight?

I’m not sure whether this was meant as an athletic or purely aesthetic display – since they’re billed as ‘acrobats’, I assumed skill was involved, so what would be the best and worst case scenario those 8-10 in the narrowest tier would be supporting?

e: was there any kind of structural support in this? I’m not finding much about it.

Here’s a Snopes article about this event at the 1980s Olympics in Moscow.

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Edward (lemmy.ca)
 
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