Sounds like you had a pretty good therapist, and you did/are doing the necessary work of getting to know yourself. That's a pretty big achievement, one a lot of us tremble to contemplate. Thanks for this exchange. It's important to have models of healthy approaches.
Maeve
joined 7 months ago
Knowing with clarity where each other stands means you can build a stronger connection when you do align.
This is a powerful statement. A lot of issues could be avoided if individuals would take time to sit with themselves long enough to know with clarity where they stand with themselves. So many people think that's just the way it is, or they are, without knowing themselves intimately enough to say whether they are just engaging in behaviors because it's expected, or if their behavior actually aligns with their self-concept or perceived values.
I agree; on the flip side, it's extremely dishonest to present as monogamous (even if one really wishes to be) knowing you aren't, or have reservations or know that when temptation meets hormonal cycles, resistance is likely to fail. These things can be discussed honestly, giving a prospective partner the honest opportunity to consent or decline. It's not the end of the world if the prospective partner declines, since other options are clearly available.
Some YT Video I saw the other day claimed that the US president tried to makea "deal" and Captain Traoré respectfully declined, but I couldn't verify it at the time, so I'm wondering if this sped up the timeline?
Not this century, as far as I am aware.
Apologies for posting in the wrong forum. I encourage mods to rm.
Yes I saw something on yt but didn't know how credible it is, searches and found a bunch of AI slop. Thanks so much.
They assassinated MLK 2, and before that tried to destroy his marriage. And yes, he engaged in nonconsensual non-monogamy, which shows our heroes are human, as Che famously reminds us, "Shoot coward, it is only a man you kill."