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You are correct. Having worked in information technology, I realized pretty quickly that management is always reactive and never proactive.

In the words of pentester Jason E. Street in his defcon talk "kill everyone, destroy everything, cause total financial ruin" - "the best way to get management excited about a disaster plan is to burn down the building across the street."

If a government got hacked big time because of a back door, they would probably become a lot less interested.

I finally just blew up my gmail the other week and not a moment to soon as it seems. Much happier with my new swiss provider.

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Mi Espanol no es muy bien, pero quiero aprenderlo.

Seriously, super cool language to learn if any fellow Canadians are wondering.

Here's hoping between us and our Mexican friends, we can literally cut out the middle man.

Had this problem at one point with upstairs neighbors who outside of making noise also did other insane shit such as trying to use my ground floor patio as a staging area for furniture they intended to winch up to their 2nd story condo without any consent from myself or the building management because apparently trying to winch a 200 LB armoire over a flimsy railing and denying someone else access to their patio was somehow easier in their minds than riding an elevator with it 1 floor upwards.

Record it, every time it happens and note the date and the time. And then every time it happens, send the documentation to your board/building manager pursuant to whatever noise bylaws you have. Eventually, someone will agree it is an annoyance and then they will get warned, and then when they don't stop, they will get fined.

In my case it did take a fucking year, but because fines at my condo double per infraction, so eventually they were essentially evicted by proxy because the fines were likely into the tens of thousands and they couldn't afford to continue living there the way they were.

The last of the many arguments I heard from them through the ceiling was when they were trying to move out, and between the two of them they couldn't seem to manage carrying a bed frame down their hallway 10 feet without scraping the fucking shit out of their walls and started accusing each other over whose fault it was.

Lastly, look into "Mighty plugs ear plugs". They are the best ones I have ever found, and gave me some respite from the noise. If you feel as though you can't when you sleep because you won't hear the alarm, go look for alarm clocks made for deaf persons that have a vibrating mattress pad. Great combination, you can sleep completely deaf but still wake up on time.

I have been considering buying a domain and starting one using either writefreely or plume.

I purchased a hammer at a dollar store once, just to see how bad it was.

I found out when the head of the hammer flew off on a back-swing and put a whole in the wall. The neck of the hammer was made of flimsy, hollow tube metal and the head had only been tack-welded on in 2 places.

Yes, the fear is typically that we don't want to be accused of following you, sneaking up on you, or being creepy, so there is usually some noise or overt thing we do to try to imply we are just minding our own business.

Sometimes to avoid the situation all together, (let's say I am walking home at night and I see some woman walking the same direction ahead of me, and I know I am going to end up passing her because my pace is faster), then we will literally cross the street just so that we don't have to be put in the awkward situation of walking up to and past you at 3 am on a public sidewalk.

There are other things beyond this as well that men do or avoid doing which women might not realize. Most men in my experience are really careful to never be left alone with children for example. No one blinks an eye if a woman is, but men have learned to avoid potential false accusations in this way as well.

A lot of men are fearful to do something as simple as taking their kids to the park because of this. You can search for articles in which fathers who take their own kids to the park have been accused of being pedophiles just for sitting on a bench while their children play, or accused of kidnapping just because they are an adult man with a child in public. You won't find any articles about this happening with a woman.

Of course, no worries. If you think of anything else you want to ask later, please don't hesitate.

If you want to browse a different instance directly, you just type in that instances URL into your browsers search bar, though this is not how most people look at other instances.

In the upper right, you will likely see a magnifying glass icon for search. When you click on it, you will see a page like this:

The first box in the upper left that reads "All" (The one to the left of "Subscribed") let's you choose the type of result you want from your search. Using this box you can search for all, comments, posts, communities, users, or URL.

The selector to the right with the choices Subscribed, Local, All, Moderator View (if you moderate communities) allows you to scope the source of your search results. Subscribed will only show results from communities you subscribe to, local will only show results from your home server (lemm.ee in your case), All will show you results from everything lemm.ee federates to (such as lemmy.ml, lemmy.one, and many more), and moderator view will show results from communities you moderate.

If you set that first box to "Communities", set the selector to "all" and then search "asklemmy", it means you want to see communities from all federated instances that match your search. The result will also show how many users are subscribed to each.

This is what I see when I do this. As you might notice, there is more than one ask lemmy community, because each instance can have their own! If the result is not on my home server, you can see that it adds the name of the instance it is on (for example the first result is the asklemmy on my homeserver, but then the second result is the asklemmy on lemmy.world, so it shows this.

If you leave these settings the same, and enter in two spaces as your search term, it will return everything, and you can paginate through every federated community that you can go visit, subscribe to, and communicate through. Alternatively, you can click "Communities" at the top of the screen on your main page and change the selector there to see this.

As to your question about finding an instance that suits you, there are a few pages like https://join-lemmy.org/instances which will let you browse instances. Each instance typically has a description explaining what the purpose of the instance is. Some are geared towards hobbies, others are for general use, some are for specific locations, some are for ideological beliefs, etc. On your main page on lemm.ee, at the top, you will see that same selector for "Subscribed, Local, All, Moderator View". When you browse "Local", you will only see posts from other users on your own instance and it's communities. This is really great because you can actually come to get to know other people pretty well on your home instance. It's the same as being able to see what is going on in your own town, and have a smaller community of people interested in the same general theme, but then also being able to interact with every town in the world by browsing "All" instead.

Instance owners have the power to do a few things which are important to know. They can turn off new user account creation for their servers (because if they are paying for server space, it is a problem if suddenly you have 10,000 users on your instance creating content) so you can't necessarily create an account on any instance. If you hit join on one of them on that page though, it should let you know if they are open for new accounts when you go through the sign up process.

Instance owners can also defederate other instances. This is a feature for cases where, let's say you have someone create a lemmy instance which is there just to make a group of mean people, who go to other instances to be mean. If every other lemmy instance were to defederate them, they become like a single standalone website without federation. Their comments and posts, votes, etc do not show up for anyone except them, and their content can no longer be searched for or seen by those who don't federate with them.

Thank you, and I am glad to hear that you were recently reminded of something you had love for. I had a similar experience when joining Lemmy about 2 years ago. It drove me to begin keeping a general book for journaling.

To that end, if you intend to take your rediscovery of your love of writing further, a recommendation of mine would be to find both a book and pen that you like. Something with a cover or paper which you enjoy, and something which makes it feel easy and smooth to write with. In doing this I have found that it has reminded me to write and allows me to enjoy doing so much more.

In my case I found a green, hard covered book, with a relief of a tree on the front. The cover has a soft wrap which makes it feel good to hold and warm to the touch. It has two tongues for keeping place.

My pen is a very cheap but nicely made Muji brand aluminum fountain pen with which I use Waterman black ink. It writes smoothly and the pages soak the ink in well. It is also not so expensive that I would be worried if I lost it. It has a knurling which makes it easy to hold, and the cap posts in the back in an unconventional manner.

I have found writing for myself has helped me when writing for others, the only difficult part was remembering to begin.