kshade

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[–] kshade@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

we can even acknowledge that a lot of men have raped people without knowing it

I wouldn’t go as far as to call them rapists because that was not their intention

I see what you're getting at, but I really wouldn't use that word in any context where there might have been, for example, any power dynamic or some form of coercion. I believe that keeping it reserved for situations where violence or significant coercion are involved is better for everyone, especially the victims.

Doesn't mean using mild coercion/emotional blackmail/pestering/shaming/... is okay behaviour, not at all, it's just that saying no/leaving won't usually do much beyond change the relationship between the people involved. Talking about that is fine, good and needed, using "rape" to describe it will probably shut down any conversation before it can even begin, though.

I'd also argue that that sort of behaviour is something both men and women engage in, maybe in different ways but, well, the expectation on men is to always be sexually available, so it sometimes becomes an issue when they are not. Mutual respect and understanding really are the most important things in a relationship, both participants are fully realized human beings, not just "the girlfriend/wife" or "the boyfriend/husband". But people seem to forget that sometimes and I don't know what can be done about that.

[–] kshade@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago

I'm surprised that they are surprised by this as well. What did they expect, and why? How much of this is written to imply LLMs - their business - are more advanced/capable than they actually are?

[–] kshade@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago

People hate on fictional characters all the time though.

[–] kshade@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

There is a lot of overlap, TERFs usually have a problem with trans women because they deeply mistrust men. The "R" is there for a reason.

[–] kshade@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Yep, it is straight-up malware. Just like most mail clients on Android and especially iOS. At least there they have the (terrible) excuse of doing it to save power by having their server push new mail notifications through the OS' infrastructure instead of having the app wake the device up all the time.

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submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by kshade@lemmy.world to c/linuxmemes@lemmy.world
 

In reference to: https://lemmy.world/post/23862757

I use Void btw

Image text:

Most people rejected his message.

"Systemd is Satan's creation! Pure Evil!"

They hated Talking Pig because He told them the truth.

[–] kshade@lemmy.world 1 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

you can just move on with your life

That's easily said, but if you, for example, struggle with self-image anyway then being ostracized like that can really sting and paralyze. It probably is relatively easy for people who have a lot of self-confidence anyway, but not everybody does, especially in these situations.

This then usually bring up the problem of guys not taking the hint when a woman refuses nicely. It seems to me like the best strategy for a woman who isn't interested in over-confident/tone-deaf guys is to do the asking herself. Which also comes with lots of potential issues.

Also if it isn't a random person at a bar you're talking to but someone you already know a bit then rejection probably also means that any other relationship you might have had is over, maybe even any relationship you had with mutual friends/acquaintances.

[–] kshade@lemmy.world 0 points 8 months ago (5 children)

There is very little positive guidance, just a sea of don'ts, usually worded as absolutes. And a lot of divisive "gender war" BS from all sides. Really not surprising.