I bought my Tesla in 2022. After 4 years with it, the lack of real buttons and burying controls under touchscreen menus is the primary reason why I’ll never buy another Tesla. When I do replace my Tesla it will be with another EV, but not a Tesla EV.

That argument carries enough weight that EURONCAP safety rating requires physical buttons for key features:

"Under the Safe Driving section of Euro NCAP’s safety rating, the key driving controls – indicators, windscreen wipers and washer, hazard warning lights, horn and eCall emergency button – should be operated by a direct physical input rather than hidden within a menu on a touchscreen. "

https://www.euroncap.com/press-media/buttons-are-back-for-basic-functions-euro-ncap-confirms-in-testing/

The "it doesn't effect me" crowd is of the same kind that says, that controlling a phone during driving, doesn't effect them or that they can drive just as safe after non-excessive alcohol consumption.

You didn't specify the model we should compare. But model y is beaten by multiple German and Chinese models like cla, glb, ix3, xpeng g6 and smart #5 just to name a few.

To add what I mean with beat is faster charging, HUD, better drive train etc.

Where in the world are you, what sort of car size/shape are you looking for? How often do you drive more than 200km a day?

Have you never before bought a car? Go to three car dealers and look at what they offer. Take one that fits your needs.