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Why do we continue to treat Death as an exception? (lemmy.radio)

submitted 6 days ago by vk6flab@lemmy.radio to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Death is inevitable but we still seem flummoxed by it happening. We have all kinds of End of Life policies and procedures which do everything possible to make life difficult for those left behind.

Our language is around loss and unexpected, and grief and being bereft.

Why do we make Death so hard to process in our community and what can we do to normalise it across society?

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[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 24 points 6 days ago

As a rule, we don't handle the unexpected well. When my grandfather died from lung cancer, it was a long, protracted ordeal involving hospice care. Everyone was prepared, nobody was surprised.

When my dad died from a massive heart attack in the middle of nowhere in Nevada, a month after retiring, it was a shock, nobody saw it coming. He didn't make it long enough for the life flight helicopter to get there. Reportedly his last words were "Oh no."

It's one thing to plan for a death, it's another to be slapped in the head with one.