This would have to be my answer too. As a kid I always felt guilty when he told me I don't reach out to him enough. As an adult I know now that it shouldn't have been my job to do that. He lives 1000 miles away from me, but one day he just showed up at my job to surprise me and ask i I was free to go out to dinner. I said yes as long as my girlfriend could come and they could meet each other. My girlfriend is of a different race and he immediately backed out and said he had to return home. I saw on Facebook the real reason he was in my area was because he was visiting some of his old friends, i was an afterthought. That was 2 years ago and I haven't spoken with him since.