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[+] -4 points 1 year ago (19 children)
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    As I explained to you elsewhere:

    The only reason dicksucking is usable as a pejorative is to draw on historic sexism and homophobia, and telling someone to suck your dick draws on that social trauma. Telling someone to give you a haircut, for example, is still a service but doesn’t have that social trauma to make it a pejorative, and thus it doesn’t hit like one.

    It's basically drawing on SA to be used as an insult. If you don't think telling someone to suck your dick is drawing on historic bigotry towards groups that traditionally do that, then I'd like to know why you think it works as an insult.

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    I don't have personal experience with SA, nor am I homophobic. I'm pansexual myself. It isn't at all a false equivalence to say that there's a real difference in insult between telling someone to give you a haircut and telling someone to suck your dick. They are both services, but the latter draws stigma from historical sexism and homophobia. Using dicksucking as an insult affirms that history of bigotry, when in reality we should be fighting the negative stigma surrounding sexuality from women and gay men.

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    I don't think it's a good idea to mock SA. There's no ego involved, I haven't been a victim of SA, and it's incredibly rude to those who have been victims to treat it like an insult to be flung at people you don't like.

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    I have never once tried to use SA against anyone.

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    I have never used SA against you. I've said that telling users to suck your dick draws on the history of SA going back thousands of years in order to be hurtful as an insult (alongside misogny and homophobia), not that either of us has committed SA.

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