this post was submitted on 17 Apr 2025
121 points (99.2% liked)

Ask Lemmy

31114 readers
2348 users here now

A Fediverse community for open-ended, thought provoking questions


Rules: (interactive)


1) Be nice and; have funDoxxing, trolling, sealioning, racism, and toxicity are not welcomed in AskLemmy. Remember what your mother said: if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. In addition, the site-wide Lemmy.world terms of service also apply here. Please familiarize yourself with them


2) All posts must end with a '?'This is sort of like Jeopardy. Please phrase all post titles in the form of a proper question ending with ?


3) No spamPlease do not flood the community with nonsense. Actual suspected spammers will be banned on site. No astroturfing.


4) NSFW is okay, within reasonJust remember to tag posts with either a content warning or a [NSFW] tag. Overtly sexual posts are not allowed, please direct them to either !asklemmyafterdark@lemmy.world or !asklemmynsfw@lemmynsfw.com. NSFW comments should be restricted to posts tagged [NSFW].


5) This is not a support community.
It is not a place for 'how do I?', type questions. If you have any questions regarding the site itself or would like to report a community, please direct them to Lemmy.world Support or email info@lemmy.world. For other questions check our partnered communities list, or use the search function.


6) No US Politics.
Please don't post about current US Politics. If you need to do this, try !politicaldiscussion@lemmy.world or !askusa@discuss.online


Reminder: The terms of service apply here too.

Partnered Communities:

Tech Support

No Stupid Questions

You Should Know

Reddit

Jokes

Ask Ouija


Logo design credit goes to: tubbadu


founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] OceanSoap@lemmy.ml 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I had a roommate in college who was super nice. But every time she got drunk she would black out and become someone unrecognizable. We got into a street fight outside a club once because she ran into a group of girls snorting cocaine in the bathroom and she wouldn't stop antagonizing them. Didn't remember a thing the next day.

Some people become someone completely different when they're drunk

[–] rob_t_firefly@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

They may not be becoming someone so different, though. Generally speaking, if someone only seems like an asshole when they're drunk they're probably just as much of an asshole when they're sober, just better at masking it.

[–] silasmariner@programming.dev 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

No idea why this is such a common belief. If you're masking being a belligerent cunt, then you're not being a beligerent cunt. The only people whose behaviour I trust are those who care about their behaviour being as such - at least you know they're fucking trying

[–] rob_t_firefly@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

If someone gets drunk and calls me a slur, I'm going to believe that even when they're sober and acting polite they're inwardly thinking that slur about me. That is enough to make them someone I'm not going to be inclined to trust.

[–] silasmariner@programming.dev 3 points 3 days ago

Yeah ok fine this is a pretty contentious point and you make the other side well. I was thinking more 'being aggressive' and such rather than 'revealing bigotism'.