I feel like discourse is not worth having, its too many people being upset by opinions they dont agree with.
But yes, if you tell people that certain opinions are not allowed to be expressed, then they will tell you another reason they dont like the show. That is what happens. If you want the actual reason, you have to allow it to appear.
Many fans are seeing this star trek as being a vehicle for removing masculinity from the show, because the creators think its bad. But some of the new audience will say "whats the big deal, why cant we have a women be feminine and why cant we have gay klingons".
So yeah, different perspectives, and a large reason why so different opinions about it.