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Please don't expect the community to give you answers to your questions which you then delete right afterwards. Those of us who put time into answering your questions are not doing so just to serve your personal needs, we are here to help build a community knowledge base that others can search and reference.

This has become a chronic issue with Lemmy and its starting to feel like it's a waste of time to answer questions.

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[–] WhyJiffie@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Somebody may want an answer and once they get it don't want the other replies to keep notifying them.

  • the first answer is often not the best one
  • don't take away the discussion from others

But it's remarkable that all the lemmykins arguing with me and down-voting me simply can't see things from another person's pov.

I'm sure we can see that point of view, we just refuse it because it's such a mean pov

[–] atzanteol@sh.itjust.works 0 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I mean... I don't disagree but you're arguing against somebody who is not here. I honestly don't know what you expect in response. If you want people to behave a certain way you can either:

a) Say they're stupid and change nothing and continue to bitch about the problem or

b) Understand why they're doing what they do and try to address it.

[–] WhyJiffie@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 week ago

I mean... I don't disagree but you're arguing against somebody who is not here.

I thought it was obvious. I was arguing with you, because it seemed you were sympathizing with the user that regularly deletes their post. I was arguing that the reasons given are not good reasons. also this is not a DM, others are reading it too. evidence is you got a downvote on this comment, and it was not me. and most people lurking rarely vote.

a) Say they're stupid and change nothing and continue to bitch about the problem or

why, what can I change?

apparently it was already fixed a year or two ago in a yet unreleased version of lemmy. so it seems a software change will not help in a reasonable amount of time.

b) Understand why they're doing what they do and try to address it.

tried, and it makes not much sense to me. nobody is receiving live notifications from lemmy, or if they do, that's because they use a niche client where they didn't turn them off.

but also.. starting a discussion and then not wanting to participate, so dropping a bomb.. that makes no sense.