The facts are not in question. The narrative some people push or imply about those facts being in any sense Ukraine's fault is.
Yes, Ukraine has to make some shitty decisions because they are facing an existential threat from a hostile, much larger nuclear-armed neighbor currently occupying a quarter of their country and engaged in a brutal and relentless hybrid war against their government, culture, and civilians.
That's not Ukraine's fault. That is Russia's fault. If you're angry that Ukraine is unfairly conscripting Ukrainians and those Ukrainians are then getting killed on the front lines, and I think we should be, because it's true it is very unfair: direct your anger at Russia, who is directly at fault for all of this unfairness and for the fact that front lines exist where these conscripts are getting killed. We would all like to see it end. Russia can start the process at any time by ending their illegal war of aggression and occupation, ceasing fire and going back home. Returning all the Ukrainian children they kidnapped would be the next step. Then, maybe they can start negotiating peace by figuring out how they are going to compensate Ukraine for everyone that was killed and everything that was damaged or stolen during their illegal invasion.
These are not "maximalist war goals", these are fundamental requirements for justice and lasting peace, at least if you believe in a world where "might" does not make "right", which I strongly argue is something we all should all insist on at all times.