I understand you think it's wrong, but that's because you're looking at this through a different lens.

Here's what i take from it:

I don't like seeing people behave this way in these circumstances; i really don't understand it. Lets talk about what you people feel in those same circumstances.

In casual communicative contexts, phrasing something as a question doesn't necessarily mean it's seeking an answer or at least not one that solves a problem. So, this can't be a pointless discussion, because it isn't a discussion at all, and certainly not an academic one. It's people sharing experiences, just a conversation. it's great you want more rigor, but asking for it here as if it were obvious misses the point: this wasn't a context that demanded rigor from the start.