this post was submitted on 02 May 2026
81 points (98.8% liked)

Transfem

5508 readers
65 users here now

A community for transfeminine people and experiences.

This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.

Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.

This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.

Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.

Some helpful links:

Support Hotlines:

founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
 

As I’ve posted here a bit over the last year or so and haven’t really in the last couple of weeks, I thought I’d contribute a bit of an update. As is usual with trans spaces, this one is predominantly filled with posts by people just starting out, which makes sense and isn’t something I’m surprised by in any way. To balance this, I want to report back a bit how life’s been post-op.

I’m now almost 6 months post op, which feels crazy to write because it doesn’t feel that far away at all. Half a year already! Life has mostly just been.. quiet. I now feel very much at home and at peace in my body and am no longer constantly reminded of the tumor between my legs, as I called it in a previous post. I just feel good, comfy and wonderful, I have to say. I don’t think about my genitals at all, really. I don’t have a partner and am borderline asexual, so it’ll probably be quite some time until I have sex with the new parts and I don’t feel particularly antsy about it. It’ll happen when it happens, I guess.

The most significant change for me is fashion. I just don’t have to think about what I wear anymore, leggings are fair game as are light pants that used to blow in the wind in unfortunate manners. It’s so easy, I really love it. Just like that, being trans has taken a large step back in my day-to-day, it isn’t really anything I think about every day anymore. And that’s so wonderful!

I was motivated to make this post because I had my first post-op orgasm today. It was pretty cool, though the feeling wasn’t even that different. That changed on HRT already for me. Anyhoo, enough gloating. I just wanted to spread some joy and positivity!

top 11 comments
sorted by: hot top controversial new old
[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

Hey congrats! And yeah the first 6 months or so are rough. It took me nearly a year for my first post op orgasm and I was terrified it wouldn't happen.

Wait, holy fuck I think tomorrow is 5 years post op for me… Time flies when you don't hate your genitals

Edit: apparently yesterday was 5 years

Happy vaginaversary!

I'm so glad things got better for you <3

[–] PurpleStephyr@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I am 4 days post-op. The outer dressing comes off tomorrow, and I'll get the first two look at my vulva. Looking forward to the future where everything starts to get back to normal again. 💜

[–] WillStealYourUsername@piefed.blahaj.zone 5 points 5 days ago (2 children)

oh gosh, I wish you a speedy recovery! my surgery is in august and I can't wait

Thank you! 💜

Wishing you luck when yours comes! 💜

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago

Ooh good luck!

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 5 days ago

It'll take time and you'll get sick of how much time it takes. In some ways it's kinda like the first year of hormones, a really exciting beginning followed by lots of anxious waiting for everything to start being ok as it slowly gets there. But it does get there, even if when you're mostly but not quite there it feels like it'll take forever or might not happen.

[–] phr@discuss.tchncs.de 8 points 1 week ago

thank you for sharing! i am still in the finding phase abt genital surgery. but this sounds

  • like heaven and
  • like an expirience i would possibly have too. (and want from it)

glad you found ease :))

[–] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 week ago

8 years post op here!

Congrats! And really, the freedom to just where whatever you want really is understated. Plus, just never having to tuck again is such a relief.