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[–] 4shtonButcher@discuss.tchncs.de 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

There's this asshole parking in a complete no parking street in a pretty dangerous spot every day for a week now and I've reported it to the correct public channel for such nuisances daily. I'm so frickin annoyed by it and my partner just doesn't get it.

[–] JasonDJ@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

See, I'm generally against calling the correct public authorities for shit like that, because in this day and age it'll probably end with the asshole getting deported or shot.

And as much as I hate people who park in dangerous spots, I don't think that's deserved.

There was this giant box truck that used to always park in a no-parking spot (on the shoulder of the street) right next to the exit from my kids daycare. As a result it was a leap of faith pulling out, every single day, because you couldn't see shit around it.

This was right around the corner from the police station, so I must assume they've seen it and it's probably one of theirs.

Well, luckily I live in a civilized country where people getting shot is super rare. And I think serious/repeated parking fines make it harder to apply for citizenship but won't get anyone deported.

[–] thejoker954@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

The corporate bullshit was bad enough, but now with the rise of fascism, I'm constantly on the edge of a complete fucking breakdown.

I really really want to say fuck it and go become a hermit in the woods even if it means I die of exposure or malnutrition.

[–] ScoffingLizard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I just turned down an opportunity of a lifetime because I need to be able to sleep at night. Please never say Americans don't care.

I love each and every person here. Please catch your neighbor when we crash and burn.

No corporate cult is worth our sacrifice. Bless you all!

[–] MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago

"United we stand" < has always been true.

They've done everything they can to divide us against eachother, on race, on what brands we wear, what teams we cheer for, what geopolitical land we happen to be on top of, the color of our skin, and the "class" of jobs we hold... To name a few.

The problem is that many people idolize the ultra wealthy, and nobody ever got wealthy by helping their neighbor. Those "celebrities" have long since stopped caring about who they stood on the backs of and exploited to gain their wealth. They don't care about you. They won't help you when you fall. They don't want you to be supportive of your neighbor. They want you to be aggressively individualistic to the point of being "us vs them" where "us" is more of "me" and "them" is anyone who isn't me.

It's never that way. It should never be that way. United we stand.

[–] BadlyTimedLuck@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm sorry, maybe its just my bad mood, but is this post insinuating that having empathy and wanting justice are "autistic quirks?"

Shouldn't we all be feeling like things are unjust, or is it 'neurotypical' to be a heartless, selfish human being :(

[–] Lexam@lemmy.world 1 points 15 hours ago

One symptom of Autism is an "over developed" sense of justice. This can cause issues when we view a situation as "unfair"

The Boss gave John the day off, but not Dave even though they both finished the project early.

Neurotypical Dave, may grumble and complain to his friends. But he's not going to tell the boss he quits because he needs his job.

Autistic Dave however, may have a meltdown and walk off the job. Autistic Dave knows he needs the job, but now since he's having a meltdown due to the situation, he's not as in control of his current emotions as Neurotypical Dave is.

Later on Autistic Dave will most likely calm down but the damage has already been done.

[–] ashughes@feddit.uk 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Me, sitting here with so-called "justice sensitivity":

[–] Nouvellalia@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Because you matter too. Your feelings matter too. Your happiness matters. You should not "get over" injustice, but you should do whatever you need to do to be happier, even while all this is going on out of your control.

Because when the time comes, when the fire is hot and the iron is ready, I want you strong and healthy and clear about what we need to do.

[–] Canonical_Warlock@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Honestly just been kinda numb for a long time now. It's going to suck when my brain actually starts processing things again, but, for now, I'm a human robot level of functional.

[–] cantstopthesignal@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Dissociation (numbness) is a trauma response.

[–] MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago

I've just been continually dissociated since COVID started.

[–] DupaCycki@lemmy.world 11 points 2 days ago

Translation: people with ADHD are perfectly normal, while neurotypical people are fine with injustice.

[–] raspirate@lemmy.world 30 points 2 days ago (1 children)

As an American, I don't understand how anyone can be proud of our "founding principles" without also being deeply ashamed of our failure to live up to them. It fucking hurts to live with this much hypocrisy, and I'm not the one getting snatched off the fucking street. Better just keep absorbing as much info as possible lest I feel guilty for ignoring it...

[–] socsa@piefed.social 2 points 1 day ago

In the context of feudalism, monarchy and the late "Middle Ages" in Europe, liberal democracy is one of the most revolutionary things ever to happen to Humans, and the US led the way in reducing that ideology to practice.

From there, the admirable stuff is largely the framework for self reflection the system creates, though the US has not always led the way in that sense compared to its peers. No society is perfect, and a major differentiator between empires is how the people handle reflection of past sins. This is why being a progressive in the US is so fucking tedious - because the legacy and the procedures for doing better are there. They are well known and they aren't that complicated. But then there's this whole contingent of reactionary assholes who are neither students of history or philosophy, resting on imagined laurels to constantly oppose and then undo what progress we are able to make.

[–] ComfortableRaspberry@feddit.org 110 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (11 children)

Other kind of neurodivergence and I not only battle with how unjust this all is, but also with how little it makes sense. Personal gain is usually such a short-sighted goal and the things they currently do (your guys in the US but here in Germany too) are objectively so stupid that they're likely nullifying a lot of the personal gain within the next years.

It sometimes feels like being in the middle of a horde of suicidal lemmings, running towards the cliff and though seeing it, I can't get out. And the majority of people around us is still fine with this..

[–] psyq@piefed.social 2 points 1 day ago

Lemmings don't do mass suicide, by the way, that is a complete fake by Disney that got widely repeated. The lemmings they show in those scenes aren't even native to that region. Source, for example: https://www.adfg.alaska.gov/index.cfm?adfg=wildlifenews.view_article&articles_id=56

[–] wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 day ago

More like being on a train headed for that cliff and the brake room is guarded by a squad of toughs, and everyone on the train has been socially conditioned to stigmatize any mention of braking or slowing down, and they will likely team up to try to stop you before you even get close enough to the brake room for the toughs to even threaten you (but if you do get that far, they'll kick the shit out of you all the same).

It's like it's taboo to even mention hitting the brakes, and people will treat you like a social contagion and a danger to society if you bring it up

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[–] JasonDJ@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Man the world sucks but you really shouldn't see me on Rhode Island highways.

[–] thejoker954@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Fuck Rhode island in general, but the roads in particular.

[–] lavander@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 2 days ago (2 children)

My coping mechanism: when I feel that I am going to be overwhelmed by bad news or the cruelty for the sake of it.

  1. Is this something I can influence in a way or another? The answer is typically no (otherwise I would have already worked on addressing)
  2. Spending emotional energies on this would change anything for this instance? The answer is always no
  3. If I keep on wasting emotional energies on this topic that I can’t change, will I have the energies for having an impact on things I can have an impact on?

This makes me realise that the best I can do for the system is, sadly, ignore the problem. Not because I don’t care but for a strategic effort in doing what I can

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[–] Mikina@programming.dev 4 points 2 days ago (3 children)

I always thought it's ODD, that's usually present in people with ADHD, and not actual ADHD.

Or is that something else?

[–] JasonDJ@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Oppositional Defiant Disorder, I think, is very different with Justice Sensitivity.

Still very often correlated with ADHD. So are a bunch of other neurodivergencies. Autism, a plethora of eating disorders, nymphomania/satyriasis (of course, anxiety and depression are also common, and SSRI's take care of that...), and addiction probably the most common.

[–] Rooster326@programming.dev 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Oppositional Defiance Disorder?

I mean it mostly only occurs in children and it is a controversial diagnosis. Hard to separate poor parenting skills from it.

[–] JasonDJ@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Idk man comparing my two kids, both on opposite ends of ADHD (one hyperactive/compulsive, one inattentive)...the hyperactive one is quite ODD and the inattentive one, aside from the ADHD-I tendencies, is probably one of the best behaved kids in the world.

Though I may be a bit biased.

I don't think it's nurture. I think ODD has a direct correlation to compulsive behaviors in ADHD-H/C kids. It's probably something they eventually (hopefully, god willing) grow out of...but also something that would probably turn into other dangerous/compulsive behaviors I'd have to keep an eye out for (like hypersexuality or addiction).

That kid just turned seven and I'm already having nightmares of being a granddad in less than 10 years.

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[–] darthsundhaft@piefed.social 14 points 2 days ago (1 children)

People at work keep asking me what I do on my free time and I always tell them the same thing and after a while, they start to look at me funny even though they're the one's asking me the same question expecting a different answer.

I see little reason to travel rn given things happening everywhere. Can't afford nice things rn because of everything going on rn. Like honestly, tf kind of answer do people want from me?

It's my shitty life. Go fuck off with yours if you give such a damn about what I do all day.

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[–] brucethemoose@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

I’m not sure the first point is universal.

I’m a strong INTP, especially on the “judging” vs “perceiving” dimension. And boy, do I have AuADD. It’s wrecking me. But I feel like I’m pretty flexible when it comes to my perception of justice.

[–] jahtnamas@slrpnk.net 41 points 3 days ago (9 children)

i don't think i can be too honest about how i'm doing, i might say something kinda violent

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[–] Flames5123@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 days ago (9 children)

Why is this in the autism community when it’s about ADHD?

I agree with the post as someone with ADHD. When I’m in the shower, I listen to NPR and Apple News. I’ve had times where I break down in tears over something so tiny either sweet or awful. It’s exhausting sometimes.

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[–] avg@lemmy.zip 19 points 3 days ago (3 children)

I have found that what one considers injustice is subjective. We have many people with ADHD at my job including myself, one is full on maga republican, he is doing just fine.

I'm in therapy and have been offered anti anxiety pills on more than one occasion by my psychiatrist. I'm not doing well at all.

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[–] IPeaceInYourFace@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

I need papers to back up this claim. That's rather vague.

[–] FreddiesLantern@leminal.space 10 points 2 days ago

Nope, my hatred of the current state of affairs is starting to annoy people.

It's war and Im gonna boycot stuff because FUCK to the NO!

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