Happy cake day! I love the positive, community feel that it has. I like seeing authentic posts, rather than karma farming. You genuinely get nice chit chat here and some real kindness which I really like.
this post was submitted on 05 Jul 2025
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The small-town vibe, memes, video game communities, and I'm able to use my choice of third party app. That's all I want and Lemmy delivers.
Edit: also the cats
Small town vibe is a great way to put it! I really like that it's like the olden days of message boards. Back then if you found one it was like a family
Happy cake day!
I had my 2 years this year too. I just love the concept of the fediverse and I've started to dabble a bit with piefed recently and it always surprises me how interoperable it is with Lemmy.
So I guess that's my favorite thing about Lemmy ... Is that it's part of the fediverse.
Also the interactions do feel a lot nicer than say Reddit.
Happy cake day! Same here! While there are positive aspects of having a bigger community, I genuinely don't miss the hive mind whenever it peeks out over here (still somewhat rare for me).
This place has been fun and things are moving in a positive direction I think. Thanks to all of you fine folk who make it that way.
Ugh the hive mind was nasty. I always found it hilarious that with politics reddit was so left and would preach tolerance, but politely say ONE thing that doesn't fit the hive... you're toast.
It's nice here, even most of the jerks are at least authentic in their beliefs.
From one cake day to another, huzzah!
people are generally nice
Recognising recurring characters is part of the charm for me, too. And also:
While your typical lemming's behaviour is not perfect, it's still leagues above your typical redditor's. For a start I used to dread the orange mail icon... as I saw it I immediately thought, "oh great here comes a dumb fuck distorting what I say". The bell icon is still a positive for me.
My own behaviour has been positively affected. [cat analogy] I didn't declaw myself, but I don't feel as much of a need to extend my claws as before. [/cat analogy] In Reddit I used to pick fights all the time, I simply don't see the need to do so here, even when exposed to the same annoyances as before.
Once your feed is curated, it's mostly fun stuff? I do see some politics, but not as much to feel like it's only political discussion here.
I actually trust the admin of my current instance to do what's the best for the users, within his capabilities. I couldn't trust the Reddit admins to die properly. And when the worst came to pass (disagreeing with how the admins of my older instance handle users), I know I don't need to either ditch everything or suck it up.
Once your feed is curated, it’s mostly fun stuff?
Absolutely : Setting block keywords, blocking communities you don't like is critical for having a good lemmy experience. Drinking from the firehose of everyones interest can both be overwhelming and monotonous sometimes.
I've removed all politics, all memes, all internet drama from my feed and I don't think I could go back.
From that, I guess you're browsing by "All"?
My approach was different: I browse by "Subscribed", and I'm subbed to ~200 comms. It takes a bit more effort but it allows me to have finer control over what I see, for example I subbed to one or two political and memes comms - it's just enough to get myself informed, but not enough to flood my feed.
Before lemmy-federate you couldn't get a community to your instance unless someone subscribed to it, so I was subscribing to everything... and my subscriptions wasn't curating my experience.
My community block list is MASSIVE, heh.
Ah, got it - I didn't realise you're running a personal instance. Now it makes sense what you're doing.
Happy cake day! (Although for me it shows it's tomorrow. Must be the time zone difference.)
My favorite thing about Lemmy is that there's just the right amount of content. I can scroll through my subscribed feed and be done for the day. If I try coming back only after an hour, there most likely won't be much new content to scroll. This is great for not getting addicted.
2 year gang gang
Edit: I'm a lemm.ee refugee.
Oh wow, I'm not far behind you. Happy cake day!