Butting in to say - This creator is amazing, and I highly recommend people check out more of her videos!
this post was submitted on 12 Jul 2025
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tl;dw: AMAB and AFAB can be useful in certain contexts, but it's:
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Brought up too often in contexts it doesn't matter. ASAB should be offered up consensually by the person, never volunteered on their behalf.
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Often used as shorthand for other things that would be better to talk about directly. For example, a GP needs to know if they have a prostate, a support group wants people that experienced misogyny as a child, a partner asking if they bottom, etc.
Thanks for explaining for people who can't or don't want to watch the video!
have always felt it's weird the way the focus is more on the assigned sex than on the self-identified gender ... e.g. if someone is trans and you call them transfem it also communicates they were assigned male at birth (this is required such that being an enby or woman makes them trans).
Focusing on assigned sex can "undo" someone's gender in a way that calling them a transfem doesn't, for example.