Mental Health

A few things that might help about triggering mean behaviour:

• Often "just asking questions" is used by trolls to trigger arguments or pull people into debates. That's why when you use that language people get immediately aggressive online. Try asking for where or how you can learn more instead, it's more genuine and let's other people feel like they won't be obligated to argue later.
• "Why don't you just" type questions can come off as dismissing all the thought that went into something. If you rephrase to learning more about a topic you can often avoid that.
• Don't be afraid to walk away from online discussions that hurt your feelings. It's okay to apologize and clarify, or leave a response not answered if you're in an argument online. There are a lot of angry/grumpy people who are happy to lash out when you give them a chance. They don't reflect most people in the world, they're just very over represented online.

I think also as you get older you will learn more about yourself and build up some confidence to shield your feelings. It's valid to feel hurt, but over time you learn which things matter and which do not.

Yeah that "go kill yourself is the Internet I grew up with, twenty years ago, and people were much more direct, I'm used to it. I can imagine that for new people arrive in a bit of a scary place when first getting on the internet.

For what it's worth, it doesn't mean anything, they're empty words, always. It's internet speech, nothing more, nothing can or will harm you

Meditation, morning and evening, can help build mental fortitude. Good luck bro.

I am just a random dude on the internet so take my response with a grain of salt, but I have heard good things about this book from a few friends and I think it is about this very thing.

Japanese culture is all about respect and being polite. They are much more likely to ignore you than insult you. In fact, it seems to be somewhat impolite to strike up a conversation with strangers in most situations. I think the nightlife in Japan may be different, as people open up more when they're letting loose.

However, if you try to move there, know that they never fully accept foreigners into Japanese culture. You will always be a bit of an outsider.

One more thing to note is that people online will always be meaner than people in real life. Places like reddit and Lemmy are not accurate representations of real life communities.

Which country are you in?