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[–] Lemmyoutofhere@lemmy.ca 70 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Driving without touching my phone.

[–] WhatGodIsMadeOf@feddit.org 23 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

So close to an upvote until I saw it said phone.

[–] thatonecoder@lemmy.ca 7 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

WHAT DID YOU THINK IT WAS???

I genuinely do not know

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[–] PonyOfWar@pawb.social 56 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Navigating UIs on PCs, Smartphones, Ticket Machines etc.

[–] MicrowavedTea@infosec.pub 9 points 2 weeks ago

Reading UIs is definitely a skill, I can navigate most menus regardless of language. But it makes it harder to design stuff for the average user.

[–] iii@mander.xyz 40 points 2 weeks ago

Basic hygiene, sadly

[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 38 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

Explaining difficult technical concepts to laypeople. Just gotta find the correct analogy.

[–] AZX3RIC@lemmy.world 20 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

If you can't explain it simply, you don't know it well enough.

That's one of my favorite sayings.

[–] village604@adultswim.fan 13 points 2 weeks ago

The problem is that people who are subject matter experts in a field tend to over estimate the amount of knowledge a layperson has about their field.

https://xkcd.com/2501/

[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 8 points 2 weeks ago

With the caveat that a simple explanation stipulates a basic understanding of the topic at hand. I could explain the concept of First Break Positioning to anyone, but it's gonna take a while unless they have a basic understanding of how a seismic survey works.

[–] Eq0@literature.cafe 6 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I am grateful and envious: I would love to have the same ability. Stuff is crystal clear in my mind, and I still hardly can transform it into something someone else can parse… analogies are great, but finding the correct one is often beyond me

[–] Rekorse@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 weeks ago

I'm not a fan of analogies. They can be very condescending and convoluted and I find I dont learn much from them. I dont think there are any shortcuts to learning in that way really.

I find most the times the issue I have with someone teaching me something is that they are treating it as a one sided communication. If the person teaching won't learn about the student, they end up assuming a lot of things and that is what breaks understanding.

Analogies are nice when the purpose isn't to really learn but to socialize, though. Its more a way for people to acknowledge each other and show respect for the things we are interested in. Its a mutual thing in that way.

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[–] jubilationtcornpone@sh.itjust.works 36 points 2 weeks ago (10 children)

Popping their ears. I can "pop" my ears by opening my eustachian tubes on demand. I can even hold them open if I want to. Apparently a lot of people can't do that.

[–] pahlimur@lemmy.world 9 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I can do this too. It feels like I'm trying to flex my jaw muscles downwards. And makes that satisfying crackling noise when they open up.

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[–] village604@adultswim.fan 34 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Being able to see through fake people's masks. Like, people who appear nice and friendly on the surface, but are narcissistic snakes who will destroy you to benefit themselves. The people who everyone will swear "oh, they aren't like that."

It's so obvious to my wife and I, possibly because we're on the spectrum, but no one else sees it until one of us lays out all the supporting evidence that they are in fact like that.

[–] Boozilla@sh.itjust.works 8 points 2 weeks ago

It's the dead eyes. Every photo of Mr. Beast has them.

[–] Perspectivist@feddit.uk 6 points 2 weeks ago

In my case I just feel like I have a strong intuition about there being something off about someone. Usually I can't even put my finger on what it is exactly yet I seem to often be right.

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[–] sparcipx@lemmy.ml 27 points 2 weeks ago (7 children)

Embracing the chaos.
Not everything works out, not everything goes to plan. Routines will be disrupted.

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[–] shyguyblue@lemmy.world 25 points 2 weeks ago (10 children)

Spatial awareness.

I was in gymnastics as a kid, so built up a strong sense of balance and where my arms and legs are in relation to the stuff around me.

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[–] Aeao@lemmy.world 20 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Computers just work around me. Steady the software and programs. I’m not in the tech or it field. I’m in retail management.

The amount of times people call me over only to say “well now it’s working but before it took me to some other screen”

“Glad I could help”

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[–] Tracaine@lemmy.world 19 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)

Not engaging with other humans. Whether in person or online, I simply don't feel like talking to people is necessary.

Will I do it? Sure. It's fine. But the difference is that I can go weeks without speaking to someone else - and frequently do since I'm disabled and a bit of a shut-in. However, it seems to really bother people to not have others with which to speak. I've never understood this.

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[–] doc@fedia.io 16 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Fixing things. Repair. Assembly. Construction. Diagnosis. It always surprises me how many people are incapable of understanding how something works or what needs done to repair it.

From engines to furnaces to plumbing, computers, electronics, whatever, I do it all myself. And it's not even remotely connected to me career. Repairmen hate me!

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[–] chunes@lemmy.world 16 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (6 children)

Being isolated. It's always confused me how much people complain about loneliness. I genuinely don't think I have ever felt that emotion before.

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[–] pxlkttn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

cutting off toxic people

[–] Perspectivist@feddit.uk 15 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (3 children)

Getting up when the alarm rings
Not touching my savings
Paraller/reverse parking
Finding joy in mundane little things

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[–] Acamon@lemmy.world 14 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Not judging other people. Partly, I'm just quite easy going, partly I've had enough personal history of making mistakes to understand that people often have others reasons for their actions. But mostly I just don't see the point in wasting headspace caring about someone's appearance, opinion or behaviour.

But I feel like I'm constantly hearing people removed, moaning and picking at other people. There are situations where you need to take a decision about something (particularly if you're in a position of responsibility or authority) but most of the time there seems very little point in being judgemental about someone.

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[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 14 points 2 weeks ago

Being happy by myself.

[–] janNatan@lemmy.ml 13 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

What about something that everyone else thinks is easy but it's difficult for me?

Whistling. I'm fucking 35.

[–] drmoose@lemmy.world 7 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Once I took this giant thc gummy and learned how to whistle quite loud. Went to sleep, woke up and can't do it anymore 😭

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[–] 11111one11111@lemmy.world 13 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Before every 3rd annual review I set out getting competitive wages from competitors to bring to my review for my current employer to match or else I accept the competing offer and my current employer can use my annual review as my 2 week notice.

Has worked 5 out of 5 times accross 3 different companies over my 20 year work span.

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[–] Lembot_0004@discuss.online 13 points 2 weeks ago (9 children)

Answering completely random questions without any context and/or reason.

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[–] Nefara@lemmy.world 12 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (6 children)

I have a good imagination. After meeting people with aphantasia it seems I have an exceptional ability to call to mind sights, smells, sensations, sounds, and simulate the interactions they would have entirely in my mind. I can imagine a different set of curtains on the wall and tell you if it would clash with your paint, and I can taste a spoonful of a soup and go through a mental library of tastes and combine it with more salt, onion, wine etc and make a suggestion based on what "tasted" the best. I thought everyone could do it but some people don't have a "mind's eye" at all. Some people only can see in their imaginations, not smell or taste or hear etc.

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[–] Smeagol666@crazypeople.online 10 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Not being on my phone at work.

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[–] brokenlcd@feddit.it 9 points 2 weeks ago

Remembering long passwords. We're talking in the 30-40 character ballpark. And I still can't remember people's names.

[–] HobbitFoot@thelemmy.club 9 points 2 weeks ago

Spatial problem solving.

Problem solving.

Processing written information.

[–] DarkFuture@lemmy.world 9 points 2 weeks ago

Doing basic research on the people I vote for.

[–] quediuspayu@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (7 children)

I can stop hiccups the moment I notice I have them, usually after the second hiccup. It started as a conscious effort to change the breathing rhythm through diaphragmatic breathing, now is almost like a reflex action.

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[–] Jankatarch@lemmy.world 8 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

Cold turkeying stuff. It's not a superpower level but I can quit most stuff then and there without thinking about it again.

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[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 8 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

Executive function.

I don't know but it seems like a lot of people around me are just in a haze. Probably some of it is ADHD.

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[–] ccunning@lemmy.world 8 points 2 weeks ago

Waking up early.

It’s the fastest way to a cup of coffee

[–] Hadriscus@jlai.lu 7 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Spatial awareness/reasoning. How far things are, where are we relative to this landmark, which direction are we headed, how to account for the moving shadows when choosing a place to settle down at the beach, and so on and so forth. It seems like people around me are utterly lost in space

[–] bstix@feddit.dk 7 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

Plumbing. I'm not a plumber and I'm not particularly good at it, but it's one of those things that most people won't even consider looking at.

Also, 3D visualization. I had a carpenter do the gutters on my house and I explicitly told him that the reason I didn't do them myself was that the eaves are slanted inwards so that the slope on the gutters would cause the gutters to go inwards when it goes downwards, and I was unsure what best practise was for that case, where to get the proper hangers for this or if we'd need to put a vertical board up first in order to make it work. He assured me that it'd be fine, having done many gutters before. When I got home, he had put ordinary hangers right on the slanted eaves, and the gutters were halfway under the roof at one end. He stood there scratching his head and tried to argue that the wall of the house was not straight, because he could simply not see any other reason for it to do that.

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[–] harambe69@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 2 weeks ago

Public speaking. I just can't get my head around the fact that a crowd is composed of real, individual people. It just looks like an impersonal, lifeless blob to me, so I have no trouble performing in front of it.

[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 7 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Actually getting annoyed by ads to the point I do what I can to block them. I work with IT and yet a good number of my coworkers don't use any adblock at fucking all

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[–] yermaw@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Believing people generally know what theyre doing. I get quite annoyed when I find out that people who are above me in the ladder dont have a clue what theyre doing.

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[–] 843563115848@lemmy.zip 6 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I can do an oil & filter(s) change and or a brake job on most normal cars pretty easy. Many people I know would have trouble with these.

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