Yes, but be brave and use !askouija@lemmy.world to give you a new name
this post was submitted on 03 Dec 2025
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People, please don't list your full name on the internet like this.
Come at me bro
Jeffrey "Neil" Crockett
9909 Sidney Road
Silver Spring, Maryland
20901
301-312-5790
I don't fear any of you, I know how incompetent most of you are when it comes to tech
I bet most of you don't even know what linux is
This makes me think you're doxxing someone else by pretending to be them. All we need now is one resourceful idiot and that person's life is going to be hell.
call the number, i will answer and be nice. i know this looks like a trick. if it's a trick, feel free to ban me from this place forever!
OP's phone:
LOL I suspect you give less than zero fucks or this is a clever ploy for Jeffrey Crockett to receive some rather confusing correspondence. Love it either way.
My tuppence worth is Jeffrey or Jeff sounds warmer, softer, and friendlier while Neil sounds cooler (as in less warm), stronger, and classier. Jeff/rey is a fantastic golden retriever. Neil, from the Gaelic Niall, is the cat that sleeps atop your bookcase and occasionally descends to accept your food offerings.
I actually give zero fucks! Let me explain. I had a TBI three years ago and now I live in a residential program. Looking for software dev work at the moment, I've been coding wince 2017. My life is basically an open book, I've told all my dirty little secrets to doctors since 2003 so I guessI really am all out of fucks to give
Its easier to just ask people to call you by your middle name. Legal processes are not fun, fast, or usually cheap.
"I'm Jeff, but I go by my middle name, Neil"
That sounds good, I guess I'll just use that line.Thanks for the tip!
Most of the time you don't even need to say it's your middle name. I've known lots of people who went by their middle name, generally guys in families where they, their dad and their grandad are all officially 'John', but actually go by their unique middle name. Its not that unusual.
so if i'm introducng myself to people, i'll just say "hi, i'm neil"
Or “Hi, call me Neil” or “You - you get to call me Neil”.
i like to be brief, so.....
"hi, i'm neil"
no need to say "i used to be jeff" because they don't care. just"hi i'm neil" or "hi i'm neil, nice to meet you"
"KNEEL BEFORE NEIL!!"
i'll use that once i get into BDSM
still trying out the new human body, lmaoooo
Yep, exactly. The distinction among:
- “I’m Neil”
- “Call me Neil”
- “My name is Neil”
For most cases they are equivalent.
Number of people were doing at that my work (which is annoying when you're new and don't realize that "Jimmy"is "Kyle" in AD; but most HR tools allow you to select a "Preferred" name and then publish to AD)
Probably depends on where you live. Laws differ substantially between different countries and possibly even between federal states.
Based on you not mentioning your country, I assume USA, though.
i've read the replies here and i've decided i'm not gonna legally change it. they seriously gotta make it easier for gender nonconforming people to change their names. it should be a piece of cake, like waiting at line at the fucking DMV or something, but all these fucking cowardly fascists can't deal witrh all their intrusive gaythoughts so they project their rage unto the rest of us good decent people
This is smart. My partner has changed their name three times in three states due to two marriages. They've had to substantiate the entire paper trail each time they've done anything relating to official identification, security clearance, or background checks. It's an additional layer of complexity that can and has caused additional complications.
yeah, honestly i just got too stoned and was like "I LIKE NEIL BETTER THAN JEFF!"
but seriously i'll just go by jeff unless i'm introducing myself to someone new,then i'm neil
i've introduced myself as neil to someone onlinkedin
If you're changing your name for gender change reasons, it has recently become quite easy if you live in Germany. Probably not going to last given the far right's popularity, though.
I live in America. I'm sure the gender laws are a nightmare now that they let Stephen Miller do whatever the fuck he wants