TheDannysaur

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[–] TheDannysaur@lemmy.world 27 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I don't like most of the responses here so I'm offer my own. Love is not found it is built.

My wife and I got married young. I'm 34 and I'll be celebrating my 9th anniversary in under a week.

Love is where all those things come together. We have the deepest friendship. We're weird in the same ways and we've basically developed our own brand of humor. I can make my wife laugh literally with a look.

Love is also a commitment to never, ever bail. It's unlike anything else. With friends, you still try to be good company or you wouldn't tell them the deep thoughts. But my wife and I can share anything. We're so intertwined that there's more understanding than judgment. We can say things we don't like about people, about the world, about ourselves. We can be truly vulnerable.

We didn't find love, we built it. From 25 to 34 I'm a phenomenally different person, but we're like two planets oscillating around each other. Our orbit influences the other, and vice versa. We never would have been these people if we weren't together. With most friends I feel like they may have some influence... But in marriage it's just undeniable.

It's a truly unique thing. But I will say I couldn't understand it until I had it. And I still don't. Dating for 4 years wasn't the same as marriage after 1 which wasn't the same as marriage after 5 and that's not the same as it is now after almost 9 years. It's always growing, always deepening, and it's just insanely personal at a very deep level.

[–] TheDannysaur@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

I would hope so. I think it would be the right thing to do. But I don't think Democrats would see all the "instant landslide wins" that are talked about. I don't think they can accurately predict how that will go. I just don't buy that the average non-voter is definitely voting Democrat.

But again - we should push for it because I think it's the right thing to do, not because I think it's good strategy.

[–] TheDannysaur@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (2 children)

I don't think this is clear cut anymore. Low information voters broke very hard for Trump. Democrats have work to do to win back the average voter, but the adage of "we win when people turn out" broke in this last election.

Democrats need to get off their ass and offer something better. The fact that Trump won so handily should be a damn wake up call that they are out of touch. Republicans message sucks ass, but it still beat the hell out of Democrats. The party leadership needs an overhaul because they are floundering and trotting out these old adages excuses how piss poor they've done leading the party.

[–] TheDannysaur@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

Deadpool is to The Avengers as Austin Powers is to James Bond.