Is there a 'remind me' feature on lemmy? Cause you might be waiting a while, I've got a few disposables to get through first!
Transcendant
joined 2 years ago
Really sorry this has been your experience. I've moved around a fair bit from a young age and I learned pretty quickly that if I don't make the effort to stay in touch with people, very few of them will check in. Only a few true friends.
If I rationalise it, it's because few people are genuinely selfless; most of us are wrapped up in our own lives and problems. Also, please don't let social media interaction dictate how you perceive the world. When we're less active (or inactive), sites like Facebook decrease the amount we're shown to other people. At the moments when we need social interaction the most, social media can make it more difficult to get genuinely caring interactions.
I don't have any suggestions for how you can fix it other than to try and find some IRL connections / groups / activities where you can have some genuine experiences and hopefully make some connections with kinder people.
Not sure if you'll see any of this Stamets, as maybe you blocked me after our interaction the other week when you said I was being aggressively negative about Modern Family. But you are clearly well liked and respected here on lemmy, that's not imaginary or fake. Hopefully you can find a way to make similar connections irl in 2024 and make some kind friends!
No Man's Sky - Finally lifting off the planet into space for the first time reignited my love of space and the cosmos. Made me feel awe and wonder
The Stanley Parable - never had a game make me laugh till I had tears in my eyes before. This game really fucks with your perception of what is real and just how common / predictable some gaming tropes have become
YSK if you've seen something traumatic, playing Tetris for a couple of hours afterwards can drastically reduce the chance of it becoming a deeprooted memory and causing PTSD
YSK if you've seen something traumatic, playing Tetris for a couple of hours afterwards can drastically reduce the chance of it becoming a deeprooted memory and causing PTSD
Can I ask what role she did? I read a book last year called 'The Devil You Know - Tales of Forensic Psychiatry'. It was very illuminating and interesting, each chapter a different (anonymised) story of one of her patients. Especially her 'bike lock' theory of why some people can commit such horrific crimes.
Tried reaching out to my mom to see if we can try and mend our relationship. Didn't feel great, I want to try again though
You shouldn't have to apologise for your behaviour as a child. You were a child, she was a parent. If anything your childhood behaviour is to some extent HER responsibility.
From what you've said, it sounds as if you're bending over backwards trying to repair your relationship while your mum is being stubborn & petty. If it were me, I'd make a final attempt to reach out and explicitly say that I am desperately trying to mend our relationship, but it seems as if she isn't interested in doing that... and if that's the case, can she just be upfront about it so you can both move on.
Crazy that I've been downvoted for offering factual help, while the comment which is provably incorrect is up voted