Zagam

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[–] Zagam@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm not sure it's in all of them. The one by me has an area where you can dump your kid so you can shop unimpeded. I'm only assuming they have a ball pit.

[–] Zagam@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

As long as you were true to yourself and didn't pretend to be someone else, you did nothing wrong. All you can ever do is be honest with the people you love. It's up to them to decide if they want to be with you (the same way you get to decide if you want to be with them). It sounds like you tried and she just didn't want to be with you. I don't mean that in a cruel way. It's just how things sometimes go.

Sometimes people grow apart. Time will heal, yes but for now, you're grieving. You lost a friend. It will take time to let that go and for you to move on.

Frankly, it sounds like she meant more to you than you did to her. That's her loss. Stand tall, be proud of yourself that you could give yourself to someone, and that you were honest and open. Go and do that again and again until you find someone that is honest enough with themselves to be as vulnerable with you as you are them.

Don't t think of this as a failure or defeat. Think of it as part of a process. Turn the page and start a new chapter.

[–] Zagam@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

The ball pit in the children's area is a great place to get, uh, let's call it veal.

[–] Zagam@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 weeks ago

And Sublime did a song about playing the same song twice.

[–] Zagam@lemmy.blahaj.zone 32 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

This time it's different. He likes me in a way he doesn't like the others. They were all toxic but he knows I'm true. They made him be like that. He knows I won't.

[–] Zagam@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Yeah. We had a kid so we were more co-parenting than anything. We stayed friendly. Well, after a while. I was pretty hurt but eventually it all passed. And now I'm way better off. Im married again and this time I can tell it's for keeps. We have our ups and downs but we both want it to last so we each work hard at it. Also, after all the child support, and kid coming of age after some pretty rough teen years, there was some heavy feelings and drama. My wife and I made an agreement that we'd never divorce; there could be a gun and a shovel either way, but no divorce.

[–] Zagam@lemmy.blahaj.zone 68 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

She came from a pretty messed up family. Not as bad as some but there was some pretty gross stuff going on. We dated for a long time, maybe 7 or 8 years. We got married, she was safe. And she started to grow and seek therapy. She grew into herself and it turned out we didn't love each other anymore.

[–] Zagam@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 weeks ago

Miserable sober is better than happy drunk. Another way I've heard it is "embrace the suck". People don't usealy understand that one right off the bat, but they get it after some time sober.

It took a while to get here, but thanks. Yeah, one day I realized that hanging out in drinking zones (parties, bars, music venues where it was more about drinking than music) drunk people are just annoying. So I started doing my own things and inviting the same people. Some came along, some didn't. The ones that came along still drink, they just do it on their own time.

[–] Zagam@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

The government scientician says it offsets the microplastics.

[–] Zagam@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 weeks ago

Still wouldn't be worth it, but it would explain a lot.

[–] Zagam@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

There's a lot of good advice in here already. I'm just here to say that, for me, even at my lowest now, I'm way better off than when I was drinking. Drinking never, and I mean Never, made anything better. It just took me 30+ years to realize it. And I've lost touch with some people over it. I'm just not interested in watching other people drink. And that's OK, our whole life is growing and/or changing and not everyone grows in the same direction.

[–] Zagam@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 4 weeks ago

"you are absolutely right."

*you are absolutely starboard.

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