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[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 41 points 2 months ago (15 children)

The problem here is that when you misgender the abuser, when you insist that they be treated like a man, you aren't hurting the abuser, you're hurting all trans people, who are also at incredibly high risks of sexual and physical abuse themselves. Moreso when they're forced in to spaces with cis men, who are the most likely group to assault or abuse women (trans and cis).

Which is to say, the victims hurt shouldn't be a reason to spread more hurt, and put more people at risk of abuse

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 months ago

Unless you want to talk about transphobia, racism, LGBTQ rights etc, etc, in which case, you live on the edge constantly wondering when YT is going to demonetize you

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Peertube and pixelfed have that built in to the individual instances. It is something I'd like to see more widespread

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 2 months ago (5 children)

Most platforms have their "join lemmy" or "join Mastodon" equivalents already

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 36 points 2 months ago (7 children)

Gateways that ease the pain of entrance to the fediverse are a good thing. A single, centralised gateway that defacto controls all access to the fediverse is exactly what I'm trying to get away from

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 2 months ago (1 children)

From my perspective, that's not something I'd use, or at least, it wouldn't have been much use to me when I was a young closeted queer person in small town Australia. It wouln't have been much help finding my peers

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 2 months ago

The hot water tap in my shower turned itself completely off one day.

The whole gender thing? And I say that as a trans person. It's real, but I can't explain it...

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 months ago

That feels off somehow, or at least, the unsolved problem part isn't as narrow as that makes it seem.

I can recognise a place, just like a face. I don't eliminate options, I just recognise it. I can recognise voices the same way.

I don't understand how faces are different in this context?

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 months ago

Thanks! That sounds like something I need to look at

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 months ago (3 children)

I use a AW34234DWF on plasma in HDR mode. I love it. It's worth it. I do a lot of photo work with it. Mostly I don't run games in HDR though, because it involves gamescope, which is more hassle than it's worth for me

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 2 months ago (1 children)

What type of surgery? Are you travelling to another country?

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 months ago

Yep. The first trans people in my life that helped me when I was struggling to come out were trans men. And they were the first people I had ever spoken to about this stuff where I didn't have to explain everything. They just got it...

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