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yayyyyy!!! i think we just needed to schedule a time to play games!

i'm sorry for posting about him a lot, i'll probably refrain from it after this. he usually feels empty even though he also feels excited and happy to see me and all that. he always says he doesn't know when i ask him anything. i give him gifts and he promises to and he doesn't. he always is busy and when he's not, he plays video games and claims he wants me to join but then he says he doesn't have time because he's too busy with his own interests to wanna talk to me or even play with me, and he loves video games. he says he's a horrible bf, and while i doubt that, he just switches up so much and it makes me sad. first off, he said he still liked his ex issac, then he told me i made it up and that he never said that. second, he says he doesn't know if he loves me and we should probably break up, but then he wants me to stay!! i don't wanna have to break up with him but i can't deal with someone who puts their interests over their partner and who says stuff and switches up, nor someone who says "that's the way i am".

every time i ask if he can do something for me, he can't because he puts his interests first. i have to ask him to treat me with as much importance but he says it's the way he is and that he can't. he's starting to make me really sad and i think i'm losing feelings for him after all that happened. he can't love me as much as he once could love someone, he said. i don't know what to believe, he switches up so much. he can't show affection either because it's how he is.

now, i don't know if it's such a big deal, i'm (a trans man) just getting it "off my chest" (that's why i posted here). i love my boyfriend, but sometimes i wish he talked more to me. i understand, though. he's been struggling with mental health, but even when he says he's happy, he barely has any time for me because he's playing video games. he didn't even want to put the game down to say hi to me or text me because he thought it was annoying to do so, so i told him i'd let him play the game. i understand he plays games when he's bored or to cope with his life and depression, but he barely talks to me because that's how much he loves video games. we talk a few times per day and he says stuff like that"hi, i love you" "you're so handsome" but other than that, not really anything.

please be respectful, i don't need a rant on how much i suck as a bf, i'm really trying to figure out what to do to help.

i reposted this to mental health because it's kind of about his mental health struggles.

i (m, gay) have been with my bf (m, bi) for about three months. we are in a long-distance relationship, and we've been friends for a year or two now, maybe like october 2023. lately, he's been really depressed. when he's not depressed, he's just tired and overall low energy. he never really has a lot of energy to talk to me or anything like that, and even if he wants to, he doesn't feel like it from his depression.

he has had a bad childhood and has trauma and i feel really bad for him. i get really sad/depressed when he's depressed and he says i do help, but only a little because he's so empty. he also doesn't know what he wants, so i'm there to support him. he doesn't know whether or not he wants to talk to me sometimes either, so sometimes we take mental health breaks and come back once we're happier.

i don't really know what to do, it's also not like he lost feelings for me.

he comes from a fairly poor family with an abusive family member.

i was straight for a long time until i dated a masc-presenting enby (masc + neutral terms) and realized i was ok with having boyfriends and dating guys and masc people. now i don’t even know if i like girls so i’ve come full circle or whatever…

i was straight for a good, long while until i dated a nonbinary person (he/they) for about 10 days and realized that i had a boyfriend (that's the term he preferred) for those 10 days. then i was open to having more boyfriends and now i don't even know if i like girls but it's ok 👍

you can request some in the replies too and i can find some!! please also let me know if there is more that you know of to add!!

from what i can find and only some:

mandarin - fasheng.ing

portuguese - lemmy.eco.br

lemmy.teuto.icu

forum.ayom.media

lemmy.pt

lemmy.plaureano.nohost.me

spanish - mujico.org

feddit.cl

chachara.club

russian - rekabu.ru

shibanu.app

japanese - lm.korako.me

philosophy.cafe

fenmou.cyou

lem.ph3j.com

polish - szmer.info

fedit.pl

tech.pr0n.pl

lemmy.sieprawski.pl

german -

stammtisch.hallertau.social

rollenspiel.forum

lemmy.fedifriends.social

feddit.org

lemmy.klein.ruhr

zonenranslite.de

lemmy.hogru.ch

linz.city

french - social.ggbox.fr

jlai.lu

links.gayfr.online

kourjetez.bzh?

lemmy.coupou.fr

danish - feddit.dk

slangenettet.pyjam.as

swedish - aggregatet.org

feddit.nu

lemmy.ahall.se

italian - feddit.it

l.posterdati.it

diggita.com

lemmy.casasnow.noho.st

i'm currently using tesseract to view and post things, i've also heard of photon. are there any else?

that’s definitely me right now, sadly.