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[โ€“] dipshit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I don't know if there is a specific term for it, I think people would just call it having bottom dysphoria.

I've noticed that myself, when I first came out and started transitioning socially my voice didn't bother me and I spoke exactly like I did before. Now I'm bothered slightly by sounding masculine and I try more to speak in a way that sounds feminine, the deepness doesn't particularly bother me I just don't want to sound like a dude if that makes sense.

Yeah it happened to friends of mine, well I stopped being friends with them back then because I was a terrible person. I had lots of dumb transphobic explanations for why they "switched sides" but really looking back with what I know now. It's as simple as, anyone who "wants" to be trans just is trans. If they have a lot of transphobic prejudice they may go forward to "prove" it's a choice but they'll learn quickly that it isn't, once they're hit with the euphoria, or the dysphoria, or both. That's when it becomes apparent how little of a choice it is.

[โ€“] dipshit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I have doubts of how possible it is to accidentally fake being trans. Back in my darker days when I hug out with terrible people (and also was one) I had friends who attempted to do just that to "infiltrate trans groups" and for almost every one of them it backfired and they ended up coming out as trans in one way or another.

So I think it's more likely to fake being cis than to fake being trans.

[โ€“] dipshit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

RING RING RING RING RING RING... continues

Yeah but they said that hugging as friends is gay. Maybe it kinda is, but it also kinda isn't. I wouldn't care if it is though since I like hugs and I'm already gay anyway.

[โ€“] dipshit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I'm grateful that after coming out and becoming a much better person I have begun to experience the feeling of being hugged for real. Even though I had friends before they never would've hugged me, they always said hugging is "gay" and I unfortunately agreed with them (though now I'm a trans lesbian so who's laughing now ๐Ÿ˜ˆ).

[โ€“] dipshit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 month ago

Obviously not gay, just two girls who really like each other. Not gay whatsoever ๐Ÿ˜

Yeah similar story here, I'm not an enby, I am binary trans, but I'm still not sure if I would be treated poorly/differently than cis women going topless.

[โ€“] dipshit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 month ago (2 children)

NGL I'm kind of going to miss being able to go to the Beach shirtless once they grow in. Will be totally worth it though to be my authentic self ๐Ÿ˜Š

[โ€“] dipshit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Congratulations, I hope you have a speedy recovery.

[โ€“] dipshit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 30 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I remember this guy. I remember giving him way too much praise back when I was a stupid right wing bigot. I regret that deeply, he is a horrible person and this just goes to show it even more.

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submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by dipshit@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

I know that it's an awful and homophobic slur but it made me feel weirdly validated to be called a slur that's usually only used on women (lesbians). I don't know, it's weird. Part of me is upset that they called me a homophobic slur but a part of me is also euphoric for being referred to, even indirectly as a woman. Does anyone else relate to this experience?

(By the way I'm a transfem lesbian.)

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Farewell lemm.ee (europe.pub)
submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by dipshit@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

Despite its challenges lemm.ee will forever hold a special place inside my heart. When I signed up to lemm.ee I was younger, more aggressive. Less mature. I did many things to hurt people, I didn't realize that it was because I myself was hurting inside, it took me far longer to realize that. And even though it was communities on lemmy.blahaj.zone who helped me find myself. I still feel that I owe some of it to this instance who gave me a home here when no one else would've. Thank you to everyone here who tolerated the rude and aggressive young man I used to be, so I could finally come out as the woman I always was, so I could realize the pain I always had but never knew I had. And for that I want to say thanks to lemm.ee. lemm.ee wasn't just a server, it was a community. I hope I can have new and joyful experiences on lemmy.blahaj.zone, but no place will feel more like home to me than this place. Farewell lemm.ee. You will be missed.

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