askmenover30

Happy Monday!

How was your weekend? Any plans, milestones, major dread or whatever else you want to share coming up in the week ahead?

And how are you generally?

I'm a man in my 40's, moved to a new area and trying to make friends. A guy I've had lunch with a couple of times and we've connected pretty well. I'm not getting disinterested vibes when we're actually at lunch. However, I've invited him to lunch 3 times recently, once each month, and he's not responded. He's responded to other texts. "Hey, I'm going to event XYZ, any advice" and he'd reply. I've run into him at the grocery store twice in that time period and he's been genial. He's never offered/initiated lunch or anything, but that's not new. (No one ever asks me to do things, I'm The Organizer.) I'm getting really, really mixed signals.

How many more times do you try in a situation like this before you "take the hint" and stop?

Since it's been kind of weekly since 8+ weeks... Maybe start this thread again?

Not a moderator or anything (nor trying to be one), but I liked this community on reddit and would be sad to see it die.

How often do you shave? How long does it take you? How do you do it?

Just curious as it feels like a chore for me. I usually do a with the grain shave with a safety razor and no product since I don’t have a lot of time and that gives the least irritation, but it’s not a close shave. I see guys that get stupid close shaves and I often wonder how much time they spend on it.

I recently had my prostate examined, and the doctor told me that it was enlarged, but at this point not enough to need to do something about it (They told me that it was approximately double the normal size!)

I got the message that it was not a question about having to do something about it, but more of when. When I asked, when they thought this would be the right time, I was told, that when it becomes a problem

My question is, when do you consider a prostate enlargement, a problem. Sure peeing more often, and it taking longer time, is an inconvenience but not a problem as such.

What are your suggestions?

For context, I got mine done just over two years ago. No complications (as of yet...). I've also got two kids already.

A few guys at work were absolutely baffled by my decision, and I even heard one was questioning my masculinity.

Basically, title.

Looking forward to see everyone's recommendations

So I've got a friend at work; just turned thirty. He's perhaps not the smartest tool in the shed, and whilst he does look thirty, I think if we were guessing his age by his level of maturity, we'd place him fairly squarely in the 18-22 age range.

Anyway, 30 has had this ongoing thing with this girl at work. She's 19. He sees nothing wrong with it, and whilst that may be true from a legal standpoint....most of us think it a bit ... untoward at best.

This post isn't about him though. It's about you. What's your age cut-off, both high and low for dating?

I've never been much of a cook, but it's something I'd love to try and get better at. I've got a growing family and as much as freezer food is serving them now, when they're older I'd like to be able to cook them something genuinely nice.

Looking for some hidden gems

Sorry for the weird phrasing, English isn't my first language.

I know men can theoretically have kids at whatever age, but there is still a limit to how old you can be to take care of your child.

I guess the answers are going to vary a lot depending on people's familial situations, but curious to see the answers.

Asking as I see more and more people talking about mental health issues, and curious to see if people could share their experiences.