I was pushed so hard that I built a complete "normal human behavior simulator" that saved me from being a nonverbal wreck. What I did is nothing short of amazing, but it's a product of tremendous abuse and internal struggle that I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. How can I encourage someone else to endure as I did, to hope for the miraculous outcome I got? It seems unethical. I'd rather turn and attack the people putting that pressure on them.

That's the thing, sometimes the "failure is not an option" approach really is the best way to tackle things. Ultimately it's always a case of balancing the cost of the effort against the reward. Pushing yourself through "I can't do it" is exhausting, but the rewards are typically worth it.

I don't know, the fact that you succeeded on that might just be specific to you, but that somethings works for you doesn't mean that it will be the same for everyone.

Also, ambiental circumstances and factors are way more important than just the willforce and hard work.

Taking myself as an example: is not only that I'm poor (really, really poor, literally low class from one of the poorest countries of the world, Venezuela), but also that my surroundings are horrible and I can barely get help.

Now, even when I've managed to be better and to overcoming some of my one shortcomings, these have been only the low hanging fruits.

But even if I had infinite resources, there are still things that are literally impossible because of their nature. In example, I can't just lookbat the eyes to everybody (and I add to it that I just feel that like an arbitrary rule, totally unnecesary), I only can with people with whom I'm really hardly confident with, becausr otherwise I'll start trembling, cold sweating, my head and stomach will ache, I'll feel hazy, numb and have nausea and fatigue. That's because of social anxiety, and mine is so intense that I literally have to take meds for it. But even if meds could remove all of these symptoms, it still is uncomfortable for me.

And that's other problem: most of these "shortcomings" and "bad things" are just stupid and ridiculous social expectations from a neurotypical-centrist society. And I won't fuck with it, I'll break these rules whenever I can because they're incorrect and hazardous.