I don't really see how that justifies Orwellian censorship online.

My interpretation on what you've said is just that you don't want to be confronted with the realities of socializing with people who aren't willing to lie to you about their opinions. It used to be normalized that dishonesty and inauthenticity were "politeness" and making yourself palatable to others was productive. But, as we can plainly see world-wide, putting up with assholes just encourages them to be bigger assholes.

Perhaps rather than thinking the rest of the world is wrong for reacting to you in a way you dislike, you might consider whether there's a common denominator here. Rather than trying to control everyone else, you might want to think about what you can control that's a little closer to home.