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[–] 38 points 4 days ago (8 children)

I'm glad my childhood raised me to be a pathological people pleaser utterly terrified of anyone's disapproval. Nobody complaining about these sorts of people

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  • [–] 39 points 4 days ago (2 children)

    Not yet. But when the day comes when you decide you don't want to live like this any more, you'll get a lot of "you've changed" and "why are you being so cruel to me" from the people who have grown accustomed to your lack of boundaries.

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  • [–] 4 points 3 days ago

    correct. I got this a lot from what used to be my family when i tried to start regulating my interactions with them. eventually they switched into passive-aggressive mode because they feel like boundries are oppression, and that treating me with respect was a bridge too far.

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  • [–] 4 points 4 days ago

    On one hand, I am the same way. On the other hand push that further in the same direction to get BPD, and people absolutely complain about people who have it. I guess also my wife complains about my people pleasing sometimes…

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