You can't genuinely believe Russia is in full control of the situation. They snatched some land. Kidnapped a bunch of children. Killed a bunch of civilians. But that's about it.
Nobody in that region came to the conclusion that they should kowtow to Putin now. That dude is also stuck in a situation where he fears losing his head if his people find him showing weakness.
Innocent people are paying the ultimate price for geopolitical posturing. Doesn't matter what you have to say about NATO, Nuland, or their broken promises. What does Russia wish to accomplish because clearly they're not winning and stealing their entire country. Do you want to see the suffering to end? If so, how?