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[–] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (10 children)

@Kwakigra @LadyButterfly

Dani Donovan has brilliantly illustrated executive dysfunction you describe. (As it happens, this describes...most of my waking life, actually.)

Two views of ADHD paralysis: at top "looks like" view shows a person lounging on a couch, happily scrolling on their phone, ignoring all the things they should be doing. Bottom "feels like" view shows a miserable person sitting on a couch, looking around, the background filled with judgemental internal conflict and dialog about all the stuff they should be doing.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (7 children)
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    @clarkiestar @Kwakigra @LadyButterfly

    Right? Like effing daily. Hourly.

    We've heard of the modern Prometheus?

    This is the modern Sisyphus, except that the rock never reaches the top, & is forever rolling downhill....

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (5 children)

    @cavyherd @Kwakigra @LadyButterfly you know what? I’m feeling so guilty because I get on at my daughter about her bed-rotting and not dealing with things. The irony

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (4 children)

    @clarkiestar @Kwakigra @LadyButterfly

    My understanding is that ADHD is highly heritable, so if you have it, likely she does, too.

    And of course, with "command resistance"(?) layered on top, being told to do/not do something just makes it even harder.

    I'm •still• recovering from the trip my mother laid on me about that, 40+ years later. Maybe Dani's image above will provide an entry point for a more productive conversation!

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (3 children)

    @cavyherd @Kwakigra @LadyButterfly absolutely. It’s actually been the journeys of both of my kids that have helped me come to understand my own neurodivergency

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (2 children)

    @clarkiestar @Kwakigra @LadyButterfly

    I occasionally wonder how my life would be different if my mother had the resources & wisdom available that we do now. I'm 100% sure she meant well, but damn she left me with a lot of damage.

    Props to you for doing the work!

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (1 child)

    @cavyherd @Kwakigra @LadyButterfly that’s very kind you to say. I can see so much of this in both of my parents but it wasn’t an accepted or acceptable thing in their generation. My mum is coming to visit from nz this week, and will be with us for two months. With the knowledge I’ve gained over the last couple of years, it will be really interesting just sitting back and observing!!

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