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[–] 42 points 1 year ago (34 children)

Consensual non consent.

Also known, or formerly known as rape play.

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  • [–] 14 points 1 year ago (11 children)

    I feel like calling it rape play is just more honest.

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  • [–] 23 points 1 year ago (9 children)

    It's more blunt, but people who have been raped would point out that there's a big difference between the sexual nature of consensual non consent, and the objectively violent nature of rape.

    It's less that it's less honest than that it's more clear about what it is, and what it isn't. It's about what people think rape is about, and not what it actually is: angry, hateful and violent.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (1 child)

    But consensual non consent as well as rape can be soft

    Eg free use -> CNC

    Or use of power, like financial dependency -> rape

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    That's fair, and a good example on the first one.

    I don't really care to quibble on the details too much, but I believe a lot of definitions would distinguish the coercive from the forcible.

    In either case, it speaks to the cnc phrase being more apt than otherwise.

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  • [+] -7 points 1 year ago (6 children)

    Well I needed someone to explain consentual non consent to me because its not really logical, and I didnt need rape play explained to me, so there's that. Seems sort of silly we needed a politically correct term for it in the first place.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (3 children)

    You do know that no one made them switch terms right? The people doing it and using the term decided to change it because it made it more clear when they were talking to each other.
    Since you hadn't encountered the idea before, I don't think they're super concerned about their sex lives being easy to explain to you. Your opinion isn't super relevant to other people's sexual preferences or the words they use to talk about it to each other.

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  • [–] 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Well, its as relevant as anyone else's opinion here, which is like you said not much. Good talk though.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    And the use of computerized numerically controlled fabrication can't be part of consentual non co!sent because...???

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  • [–] 0 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    If you say so I'll believe you. Not my cup o tea

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    I'm just imaging a 'no Mr. Bond. I expect you to die' situation, but, I dunno, sexy?

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (14 children)

    And let me guess, it's not called that anymore because 1. it's not really rape 2. it got mixed up too often and then people got soft on it?

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (13 children)

    I'm not sure if the details around it. Not my cup o tea

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (12 children)

    Pretty niche topic

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  • [–] 0 points 1 year ago (11 children)

    Meh, as kinks go thats pretty common

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (10 children)

    Yeah, but I don't know if the interest is then as common to be interested in it's history to such an extend that you know stuff like that.

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  • [–] -1 points 1 year ago (9 children)

    Sorry I'm not understanding what you mean... (I'm pretty sick right now so it could just be me being dumb)

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (8 children)

    Yeah, it's been going around here as well.

    I meant that while I'm sure a lot of people have the kink, not many may be interested in it's history, such that they are capable of talking about the reasons why it is not called rapeplay anymore.

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  • [–] 0 points 1 year ago (7 children)

    I can see how that might be the case. Thanks for helping me out

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (6 children)

    Crazy you feel obliged to say thank you for such a small act. Makes me think about our anonymous individual-based society.

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  • [–] -1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (5 children)

    ...I didn't feel obligated.

    I felt thankful and thought it would be nice to let you know that.

    Edit: also you seemed to show some empathy and took the time to comment that illness is also plaguing your area, so it seemed like you were an emphatic person to some degree. Thought you might be receptive and appreciate knowing.

    Was a little thing, just a few words, and ,selfishly, if a few words hello you have a better day, even for just a literal moment, that makes me feel good so it really isn't a bother to state my honest feelings.

    Not a big deal but im happy to have an honest interaction even if it is to someone I'll likely never see or come across again.

    Cheers

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (4 children)

    Hey man, no hard feelings to you. It was a nice gesture. Though I did indeed not think about the illness part. Much love sent your way. I see nothing you did wrong in particular.

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  • [–] -1 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Oh no hard feelings here! Sorry if it came off that way.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (2 children)

    Are you canadian perhaps?

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