Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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I hate to bring up this point, but depending on the location / country you live in transition might be a risky plan. Mostly because the there government hates the idea of us existing.
Currently I would give a stark warning for anyone in the US, followed by most parts of the middle east, china and russia. Cant speak for the rest of asia / oceania. Europe should be safe, most dangers here come less from the government directly but usually single parties. Make sure to check legislation in your area.
Also your community might not always approof of the idea, especially very conservative or religious fundamental ones.
Whatever you do, stay safe and informed. Good luck on your journey!
Realistically for many of us, living in fear and not transitioning is often much worse than the reality of transitioning, and there are functioning gender clinics in both the U.S. and China, and there are no laws outright criminalizing trans people in those countries.
The Middle East and Russia are worse, those are places maybe worth moving out of first.
The U.S. is also still one of the best places to be trans, with some of the strongest laws and protections of any country in the world. Canada and certain western European countries are better, but I would not avoid transitioning because you live in the U.S. - this is still currently an objectively great place to transition, even as the situation is changing.
EDIT: I should say, I live in one of the worst states in the U.S. for trans rights. Fear played a role in keeping me from transitioning for a long time, which I deeply regret and resulted in masculinization I can't reverse. I lived here through the 90s and the world was a much less safe place then for trans people in many ways.
So I was shocked once I socially transitioned that for the most part people were indifferent to me when I was visibly trans - the worst situation I experienced personally was the TSA refusing to pat me down.
To my surprise, a lot of people went out of their way to be kind to me, to compliment me, to make me feel included. These experiences far outnumbered the concrete instances hate and stigma I experienced.
That said, some of my sisters lost their jobs due to discrimination, and that's not uncommon. Some remain stealth even having medically transitioned for years now and relatively cis passing, so as absurd as it sounds, that might be an option if your employer is overtly conservative (i.e. medically transition while remaining closeted at work).
Also, the risks from being trans are compounded by being a person of color, a trans woman, poor, and whether you are a sex worker. If you are white and middle class, the risks of violence are very different.