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Was supposed to have an appointment 2 hours ago for depression... was so depressed that I didn't sleep for the night so I slept through the morning... so now I missed it... 🫠 (sh.itjust.works)
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I told my dad about the appointment a few times before and he didn't even seem to remember it to wake me up...

I hate my life...

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[–] 6 points 8 months ago* (4 children)

I don't know how young people do things nowadays, and maybe you've already done it, but would I have missed an appointment, I would send a little mail as an apology. This may also help making it seem much less an issue (which it should not be, we all have missed an appointment here and there).

Also don't rely on other people to help you remember stuff. Use an alarm clock, or that phone you probably own.
My spouse and I try to remind the other whatever we have going on but we also both use our own alarms. Why? It helps to avoid ever having any bad feeling toward the other because of a missed whatever. Sure, the other may not reminded us but, first and foremost, it is still us who forgot about it ;)

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 8 months ago

    I got so used to my parents doing every phone call and every appointment that I struggle with independence...

    I remember being like late to school CONSTANTLY even with parents home and when my parents aren't home, I didn't even wanna go to school.

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 8 months ago (2 children)

    To make it worse, I don't have a drivers license so I need my parents for transportation... so that's why I really depend on them. And nk public transit cuz that's too much anxiety and it takes twice as long and I don't wanna deal with that. Being trapped in a bus full of strangers that do drugs (I mean... this is philly) is terrifying.

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  • [–] 3 points 8 months ago

    You may want to consider working on that, one small step at a time. You may not drive (my spouse and I don't own a car, and have not for the past 20 years) but you can work on your anxiety: we use public transit daily (and we're very shy and anxious people both her and I), it just took us a lot of patience (and attempts) to get used 'to be' in a bus or a tram, or whatever.

    If you want things to change, you need to focus on those things you can change, even one small step at a time, because things won't change out of themselves, that's very unlikely. Sorry if that sounds a bit too much like some old fart advice... That's most likely what I'm ;)

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  • [–] 2 points 8 months ago

    I haven't been to Philly, but I have to think that most people who do drugs and hang out on busses don't tend to keep bankers or doctors hours. You're going to run into a bunch of people going to work and getting around to their own appointments.

    I invite other Philly residents to enlighten me if it's a special case of some sort.

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