a family member who is super conservative and religious came up with this same idea back then, and I was on board

Maybe that's a sign that this is not something that you should be on board with.

As a gay man, I find people like you to be MORE frustrating than the ultra conservative bigots. The bigots I expect to be bigoted. Folks who side with bigoted positions who might otherwise be decent, however, I have to really think hard about what's wrong with them that they allow themselves to be swayed to bigoted positions.