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Looking for both logical and emotional reinforcements, from casual acquaintances to intimate partners, and any orientation if not especially, everyone matters.

Frame it as a "friend" if you'd like, but I would like to know what made an impactful impression on you personally, above and beyond any hypothetical.

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[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

I will say that when you have body image issues you can wind up weird there. I've got a difficult relationship with my perception of my own weight (I've never been heavier than overweight, and rarely am even there). This has persisted through years of everything from sex clubs (yeah it's similar to nudist beaches in body variety), non sexual nakedness with nudist friends and nudist experimentation in college, and just generally not finding fat people unattractive (I'm not a chubby chaser either, I just don't care). I've had times lying in bed next to an obese woman I was in love with and wildly attracted to and I was feeling the need to scramble and put a shirt on after sex to hide the fact that my stomach felt less than flat and I was insecure about it