Hello, I'm a fellow ABCml! What you've described matches my experiences pretty well. Chinese Americans who have never visited China tend to be liberals or even somehow illegals-hating Republicans. Those who visit China invariably have more pro-China views, because going there IRL dispels all the propaganda and shows the place is a normal country with normal people, with increasingly advanced infrastructure compared to the USA which feels frozen in time since the 1980s.
When I see this, I can only think that Deng Xiaoping's methods of first advancing the economy and development before 'perfect socialism' was right. Unfortunately, most normies are not MLs and so are not ideologically committed. Their opinions follow whichever place has the nicest living standards (e.g. if the West is the nicest place to live, then all of them will be liberals). Thus, it was imperative for China to catch up and surpass the West on that first, to preserve the support of the normies. It is only now that China has the space to stably experiment with more advanced socialism, since living standards are now equal to or better than the West.